When I was a kid, my family had a set of rotadraw circles that fascinated me. These were circular plastic stencils. First, you drew in all the stenciled openings for “1,” then rotated the circle one phase and filled in those for “2,” etc. This process took concentration and careful alignment. Slowly, the underlying drawing was being built, but you would not be able to recognize it until you completed the task and lifted the stencil off to reveal it. The anticipation was agony. It was brilliant.
I’ve been thinking a lot about that toy recently, and our culture’s general impatience. Just over a year ago, our then 15-year-old son announced to my husband and I that he thought he might be trans. As my other essay described, this was not just totally out-of-the-blue, but totally out-of-character.
As many other parents have described, this announcement usually triggers a brutal, all-encompassing, multi-front campaign into finding a therapist, reading the latest research, exploring anti-depressants, physical and cognitive assessments, re-evaluating and adjusting your child’s friends and internet influences, reinvesting in family time, and hopefully building a support group. It isn’t easy.
As this process plays out, parents are filling in the stencils, shifting the circle, and following the guidelines. Literally – this is how mature parents are designed to work. Life has taught us to look before we leap. Years of observation and self-reflection have revealed to us that humans sometimes want things or do things that are short-sighted and harmful to ourselves and others. A little bit of time, a deep breath, a small moment away to stop and think and gather more information can prevent a lot of errors.
But teenagers are not capable of this. They lack the ability to accurately estimate risk. They are impulsive. They misread social cues. They can be aggressive. Their brains are literally under construction at this point. Their prefrontal cortex won’t be fully formed until they are around age 25. These trans-identified kids are prematurely lifting off their rotadraw stencil, declaring that they are absolutely certain they know what the final design should be, and demanding the permanent markers, scissors and glue to form it the way they think some intangible gender spirit tells them it should be. They literally cannot think logically about this topic. They only think emotionally.
Here’s the good news: if you’ve got a teenage child, you are probably in your forties. You’ve been around the sun a few times. You’ve had your hipster grunge phase, your “Friend’s” haircut, your Pottery Barn furniture phase. You may even be entering the expensive hobby phase – unless you’re still in the expensive braces-for-your-kids phase. You understand that some desires, choices, and actions are harmless, some profoundly beneficial, and some truly damaging. Altering the body by hormones or surgery is permanent. Use that wisdom, use that perspective, and give your kid the things they truly need: time, meaningful experiences, better friends who appreciate them for who they actually are, and lots and lots of love.
Because meanwhile, while you are freaking out (internally!) and pretending to have Carol and Mike Brady-like levels of aplomb and sensitivity, your child’s brain will start filling in the stencils, rotating the circle, and building up their design. A year from now (as long as you don’t give them puberty-suppressing hormones which totally mess up the brain development), their brain will have more capacity to think. Their mind will have more capacity to understand its self.
So yes, your child’s trans thing is a phase. Like multiple studies have shown, around 85% of children with gender dysphoria desist by the time they are adults. If your teen is like mine (no evidence of gender non-conformity throughout their life, profoundly gifted, socially isolated) they are probably going to desist. If they are like my friends’ kids (ADHD, Asperger’s/ASD) they are probably going to desist. If they are like my other friends’ kids (gay or lesbian) they are probably going to desist. With some love and some time and no social transitioning, it may take a year or so, but you’ll get there.
And if your child is one of the ones whose gender dysphoria never abates – you’ll know it after they’ve completely filled in their rotadraw. You’ll have seen those lines forming those patterns for years and years, since childhood and through adolescence. My heart goes out to those families. To you I caution slow slow decision making. Help your kid understand that sex never changes. Make sure your kid knows what their sexuality is. Encourage them to date until they know who they like. Delay anything permanent until their brain has matured, too. Give them the opportunity to let their brain mature naturally. Let them finish their work of growing up. As the thousands of detrans people can attest, you can always go forward, but you can never go back.
So it comes down to this: if you think it might be a phase, it probably is. If you know it isn’t a phase, it probably isn’t. Either way, we all need to stop messing with the stencil and stop interrupting the natural development of the brain and the body. Have a little patience and respect for the phases, folks. Stop demanding that teenagers know who they are immediately and stop freezing their puberty in its tracks. Phases are weird and ugly and often unpleasant, but phases are natural, too, and we’ve come a long way thanks to them.
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I’d just like to point out, he said he “thought he might be trans,” implying that he had thought about it before talking to you…
Did you know there is a thing called “sneaker males” in fish. Some of these people who call themselves “trans” remind me of this all. A little information on “sneaker males” from a google search:
“Fish sneaker males, also known as “sneaker” or “parasitic” males, are a type of male fish that employ alternative reproductive strategies to mate with females. These males are smaller and less fit than dominant males, but have evolved to mimic female characteristics to avoid aggression and competition from larger males.”
The more you know!
what about trans mascs 💀🤯
American College of Pediatricians June 2024 statement condemning Child Transing (Inc.) procedures as “atrocities to be banned, not healthcare”.
“Deconstructing Transgender Pediatrics” acpeds.org/
• “A UK whistleblower recently revealed that gender-distressed girls exhibited more behavioral and emotional problems, and greater body dissatisfaction while taking Lupron. This is not surprising given that Lupron’s package insert lists ‘emotional instability’ as a side effect [see the violently sociopathic comments of rage posted by disturbed Transbots on this and related topic comment threads as evidence] and warns users to ‘Monitor for development or worsening of psychiatric symptoms during treatment’. Temporary use of Lupron has also been associated with and may be the cause of many serious permanent side effects including osteoporosis, mood disorders, seizures, cognitive impairment and, when combined with cross-sex hormones, sterility.
• In addition to the harm from Lupron, cross-sex hormones put youth at an increased risk of heart attacks, stroke, diabetes, blood clots and cancers across their lifespan. Add to this the fact that physically healthy transgender-believing girls are being given double mastectomies at 13 and hysterectomies at 16, while their male counterparts are referred for surgical castration and penectomies at 16 and 17, respectively, and it becomes clear that affirming transition in children is about mutilating and sterilizing emotionally troubled youth.
• Americans are being led astray by a medical establishment driven by a dangerous ideology and economic opportunity, not science and the Hippocratic Oath. The suppression of normal puberty, the use of disease-causing cross-sex hormones and the surgical mutilation and sterilization of children constitute atrocities to be banned, not healthcare.”
Appreciate this level-headed take on the topic. I found through personal experience that activists unfortunately seem to be more concerned with validating their egos rather than the well-being of anyone. When I turned to these groups for help when my son was struggling, my questions and concerns were brushed off and instead I was pressured that I must go along with their irrational ideas or my child’s condition will worsen. Thank god me and my husband listened to our intuition instead and decided to take him out of that toxic environment as soon as possible. He is now a happy and confident young man, gradating from university next year. My heart goes out to the families harmed by this movement.
How did you take your kid out of the environment if I may ask? How old was he?
It is important not to be dismissive of a child’s journey – Exploring what it means to be humans and to exist in our bodies and in relation to each other is part of growing up. This is discussed in the study that you cited but quite evidently did not read (irresponsible writing! Bad job!)
There are rich, beautiful lives to be lived beyond the strict confines of the little box you have created for youself.
Yeah they clearly did not read the study, oof.
Shut the fuck up
Sickening. There is no debate. Trans people are valid. This world we live in makes me want to leave it, empathy is in small quantities, and so are human rights. Why does it have to be this way for you alt-right extremists?
Well, you certainly drank the kool-aid, Amy.
Because you work through an employment agency & are @ a call centre for the benefit of a social engineering company, having never heard of any of this until that happened by any chance?
Did you read the article to understand or did you read to react? I do not believe the author is devaluing anything as much as they are saying to give kids space and let them explore it, because jumping full force into either side of the spectrum can be permanent and hurtful to growing kids. They have time and space as adults, once they are sure of themselves to do what they need for their identity. Being abusive to your kids to keep them from being something YOU don’t want can also be as detrimental as going all-in on supporting the opposite spectrum, because kids are still growing, changing, and nothing about them is fully developed yet. The article even says if it’s a phase, you will know, if it’s not you will know.
Do you have children? One of mine 100% insisted she was Batman at age 9. Should I have mortgaged the house to invest in her vigilante crime fighting plans? Especially as she just liked to wear the cape every where and people knew she wasn’t actually Batman, but respectfully deferred to her wish to be called Batman and respected as Batman? She was not old enough to drive the Batmobile, let alone see over the dashboard…
Decisions we make can last a lifetime, and going in 100% can have unexpected consequences until everyone is on the same page and confident the next steps are beneficial and align for a child’s health and happiness. Both spectrum can be harsh emotionally and physically for children.
I think, as much as I wanted to drive the Batmobile, I liked just having a safe roof over our heads, and a big hug and understanding for my little ones, and letting them explore everything. She did not go on to become Batman as an adult, but because I did not treat her like she was weird or interfere because she pursued things I was not about or did not like, she is a bug lady and works with insects and is super happy about it. The ultimate goal is letting kids learn and grow without extremes to find themselves. Now that was true, but metaphoric. Before you react to how being Batman is no where near being trans, go back and read to understand my context regarding children and do not focus on Batman, unless you are a Batman fan, then take a minute to appreciate Batman, but also understand my point.
Your life would be much less stressful if you worked harder to slow down while reading, read the whole articles, and made it a point to really understand what the author is saying. It would make life better for everyone, because there would be, well, less reacting and more understanding.
A child declaring batman and a soul knowing their brain is special are TWO completely different things
fact is people who are actually diagnosed with gender dysphoria per WPATH standards of care and the DSM5 almost never desist and regret medical transition less than 1% of the time.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35690947/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8099405/
And the age of diagnosis does not change anything.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/article-abstract/2815512
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/01/150129132924.htm
And it is not a Social Media created fad.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36935303/
If you wanna leave it, no one’s stopping you.
Lol. This was a hilarious read. Also the one study you linked to i doubt you read till the end.
This thread reminds me of a richard dawkins video fan response thread – its full of professional apologists.
“A man without a knob no more becomes a woman than a dog without its bark becomes a cat.”
Brendan O’Neill
“It’s Preposterous. The whole [Trans] era will end at some point because countries don’t have the luxury of doing this. We just don’t have time for this stuff. [At some point] these hectoring trans activist, they/them Pronoun People just all have to go away because everything [in real life] will have become too serious. It’s ridiculous that we live in this era.”
Douglas Murray
“Pronoun policing, the noisy punishment of so-called ‘misgendering’, is not about creating a fairer, nicer society. It’s about reprimanding dissent. It’s about shaming those – especially women – who fail or flat-out refuse to genuflect to the new ruling-class ideology of gender identity. It’s an instruction, a warning, from on high: ‘Embrace our ideology and speak our language or we will destroy you.’
The war on ‘misgendering’, which is a war on truth, is Woke’s most tyrannical manifestation. ‘Misgendering’ is a sinister and slippery assault on truth-telling itself. It makes the truth a crime and it makes the lie received wisdom. When the neo-witchfinders scream ‘Misgenderer!’… it is an attempted forced conversion to a new religion, the religion of ‘gendered souls’.
Seekers after truth were once damned as ‘heretics’, now they’re labelled ‘misgenderers’, but many clearly still recognise that the hard life of adhering to reason is more fulfilling than the easy life of yielding to [Trans Inc.’s Totalitarian] theocracy. The sacrifice of free speech, open debate and public life itself to the feelings of a handful of [autogynephile] men is insane.”
Brendan O’Neill
I’m confused are a pro-trans or anti-trans because if you’re sharing these quotes unironically someone needs to tell you that they aren’t very good.
Not very surprising that these Shakespeare-ass quotes are being shared by someone with the name of “Jorgensen Shmorgensen”
I would say there are too many people on this comment forum who have lost their critical thinking. Poof…..gone entirely!
I do wonder, just from an interested observer position, whether they will be this way for life, or whether — like once-fervent cult members whose minds were taken — some of them will eventually come back to reality.
Authors in future will write “Believe it or Not” books about this bizarre and delusional Trans period.
Quote – I would say there are too many people on this comment forum – Unquote.
Indeed professional activists are on the thread. As such they’d be ubiquitously spreading pro BLM rhetoric // climate change // abortion // Hilary appreciation society // white fragility i.e all manner of crypto fascism.
No Donna, you were not “censored” by Medium — they have no obligation to help you deceive, no matter how much you believe it. Let’s see if you can stand to have facts you apparently can’t stand put in front of you.
The fact is people who are actually diagnosed with gender dysphoria per WPATH standards of care and the DSM5 almost never desist and regret medical transition less than 1% of the time.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35690947/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8099405/
And the age of diagnosis does not change anything.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/article-abstract/2815512
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/01/150129132924.htm
And it is not a Social Media created fad.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36935303/
Trans Inc. ideologue/propagandist wrote:
“Let’s see if you can stand to have facts you apparently can’t stand put in front of you.”
Let’s see if YOU can stand FACTS that contradict YOUR ideology of “DIE CIS SCUM! KILL TERFS DEAD!” put in front of you:
Game changer: The Child Transing “Wikileaks”.
Journalist Michael Schellenberger has just released insider documents from the world’s leading Child Transing “authority” WPATH that will provide parents, doctors, politicians, legislators, school boards, media, lawyers (for class action law suits) and the public with insider medical and policy information that can end Child Transing:
The WPATH Files: Pseudoscientific Surgical And Hormonal Experiments On Children, Adolescents, And Vulnerable Adults
“The report will show that, as is revealed by its own internal communications, WPATH does not meet the standards of evidence-based medicine, and members frequently discuss improvising treatments as they go along. Our report will further show that members are fully aware that children and adolescents cannot comprehend the lifelong consequences of ‘gender-affirming care’, and in some cases, due to poor health literacy, neither can their parents.”
THE WPATH FILES
Michael Shellenberger
“Newly released internal files from the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) prove that the practice of transgender medicine is neither scientific nor medical. American Medical Association, The Endocrine Society, the American Academy of Pediatrics, and thousands of doctors worldwide rely on WPATH. It is considered the leading global authority on gender medicine. And yet WPATH’s internal files, which include written discussions and a video [with transcipt], reveal that its members know they are creating victims and not getting ‘informed consent’.
Victims include a 10-year-old girl, a 13-year-old developmentally delayed adolescent, and individuals suffering from schizophrenia and other serious mental illnesses. The injuries described in the WPATH Files include sterilization, loss of sexual function, liver tumors, and death. WPATH members indicate repeatedly that they know that many children and their parents don’t understand the effects that puberty blockers, hormones, and surgeries will have on their bodies. And yet, they continue to perform and advocate for gender medicine.
The WPATH Files prove that gender medicine is comprised of unregulated and pseudoscientific experiments on children, adolescents, and vulnerable adults. It will go down as one of the worst medical scandals in history.”
https://environmentalprogress.org/big-news/wpath-files
“The WPATH Files: PSEUDOSCIENTIFIC SURGICAL AND HORMONAL EXPERIMENTS ON CHILDREN, ADOLESCENTS, AND VULNERABLE ADULTS
[Excerpts:]
“WPATH’s SOC8 is not evidence-based, and it is clinically unsafe. The guidelines are based on ‘consensus-based expert opinion,’ but notably only the opinion of experts who advocate for ‘gender-affirming care.’ WPATH inaccurately states that a systematic review of the evidence for ‘gender-affirming care’ for minors is not feasible due to limited evidence; however, Sweden, Finland, England, and the state of Florida have conducted such reviews, finding the evidence ‘insufficient and inconclusive.’ In fact, WPATH itself has also conducted such a review and found the evidence for cross-sex hormone therapy to be ‘low’ and inconclusive…”
“Dianne Berg, child psychologist and co-author of the child chapter of WPATH Standards of Care: ‘We’re often explaining these sorts of things to people who haven’t even had biology in high school yet.’”
“Dr Daniel Metzger, Canadian endocrinologist: ‘‘I’ve performed mastectomies without nipples… minimal-depth vaginoplasties (vulvoplasties), phallus-preserving vaginoplasties, and nullification procedures. I’m quite comfortable tailoring my operations to serve the needs of each patient.’”
NY Post Mar 4 2024
“Secret Files Show How International Group Pushes Shocking Experimental Gender Surgery For Minors
According to leaked documents, the World Professional Association for Transgender Health [WPATH] is pushing hormonal and surgical transitions for minors.
Newly leaked files from the world’s leading transgender health-care organization reveal it is pushing hormonal and surgical transitions for minors, including stomach-wrenching experimental procedures designed to create sexless bodies that resemble department-store mannequins.
[WPATH documents demonstrate it’s controlled by gender ideologues who push aside concerns about whether children and adolescents can consent to medical treatments that WPATH members privately acknowledge often have devastating and permanent side effects.
Yet the US government, American doctors and prominent organizations nonetheless rely on WPATH guidelines for advice on treating our youth.
The files — jaw-dropping conversations from a WPATH internal messaging board and a video of an Identity Evolution Workshop panel — were provided to journalist Michael Shellenberger…
Shellenberger’s nonprofit Environmental Progress will release a scathing summary report, comparing the WPATH promotion of ‘the pseudoscientific surgical destruction of healthy genitals in vulnerable people’ to the mid-20th-century use of lobotomies, ‘the pseudoscientific surgical destruction of healthy brains’.”
thank yo. this trans shit is the mbiggest malpractice travesty in history. and there needs to be big changes to make it stop. these people are psychotic child predators and they should all be executed. or imprisoned. or executed.
how can youth who want to transition be child predators?
This dude can’t even use a grammar checker.
Or a dictionary, do you know what ‘child predator’ means?
Yes
I’m sorry Talia gave you 6 links and you rebut with a copy paste of some uncited article by a random dude you hasn’t named his sources let alone his “experts”.
You did not win this argument.
In most of the london gay clubs & pubs at least up to 2010, the ( very few ) trans had to hide away and not use the rest of the premises. Usually in some dingy corner where spare tables & chairs were stacked up otherwise the other patrons would threaten to beat them up.
I go back to the 1970s when many male-only gay bars didn’t even allow females of any kind, real or pretend, entrance (lesbanians, trannys and hags had their own hangouts). All the trannys back then were drag queens (with the rare transexual). The current Transgender Inc. has nothing to do with homosexuality (or genuine transexuals). Indeed, modern Transgenders despise homosexuals and use Transing as conversion therapy to de-gay potential and self-loathing homosexuals in the manner of radical Islamic countries like Iran that exterminates the “evil of homosexuality” via state-sponsored Transing: Castration + Burka = Woman (Presto! No Mo’ Homo. Castrate the gay away.)
The current Transgender Inc. issue is solely about the ideological, political, big pharma and corporate-financial agendas of Child Transing. As far as most people are concerned, any adult tranny who’s of legal age can pay to have the head of a chicken surgically attached to his crotch or whatever other BME bod-mod kink turns him on. No one cares any more. Yawn, yawn. Trannys are boring! People only care when children are Transed. Period. Adult trannys can pay to go hog wild with self-mutilations, but now that the social-contagion propaganda and psychotic obsession with Transing children has been exposed, there is an international majority condemnation and Child Transing will be stopped via mass law suits from victims suing Trans Inc “gender medicine” practitioners and organizations.
Further (left wing) evidence that the Child Transing house of cards is about to fall down:
“On Feb 29 2024, Radio-Canada, the French arm of the state-funded CBC [the radical far-left hyper-woke Trudeau government‘s personal Pravda that has a 1.2 billion-dollar taxpayer-funded annual budget] released a documentary showing a [female] actress posing as a 14-year-old patient at a private ‘gender clinic’ in Quebec being prescribed testosterone and advised on life-altering mutilating surgeries during a consultation that lasted a meagre nine minutes.”
Transgender people are not anti-gay. Transgender people can BE gay.
2010 was 14 years ago.
” The fact is people who are actually diagnosed with gender dysphoria per WPATH standards of care and the DSM5 almost never desist and regret medical transition less than 1% of the time ”
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35690947/
All very well but the so called ‘researchers’ rigged the study.
” Turban made interpretive choices that strongly suggest he and his coauthors were avoiding any USTS-15 data that might undermine their broadside against ROGD.
Sapir et al.’s response is worth reading in full, but some examples of their findings should suffice here. First, to be eligible to participate in USTS-15, respondents had to identify currently as transgender. By definition, this means that anyone who identified as trans as adolescents but no longer did so as adults was excluded. Since this excluded group may include individuals whose dysphoria presentations match the ROGD phenomena, the USTS-15 sample is highly biased against ROGD hypothesis testing”
https://www.city-journal.org/article/more-sloppy-scholarship-on-trans-identity
All too typical now
how can you “desist” after you’re brain has been crushed by synthetic hormons and your fucking reproductive organs have been removed and/or destroyed? “desisting” is no longer an option at that point. you people are pychopaths.
Plenty of people do it actually. Men with low testosterone and women going through menopause have perfectly fine brain matter after hormone therapy. Women who opt for a hysterectomy after having several children also do fine, mentally.
WPATH is a criminal organization run by psychopathic child abusers and they are going to be thrown to the wolves. pretty quickly i might add. but not even close to quickly enough. so fuck you talia. fuck you to the MOON!
that’s pretty gay dude
I don’t know if there is any need in saying this after seeing some of the (loosely worded) discussion that has arisen here. Guess I better join in the farce.
THIS ISN’T JOURNALISM. Stop feeding into this nonsense, this is a blog. This is what emo kids were excited about Myspace for, it’s not a measured science, and it’s barely a structured opinion. I truly don’t mean to be disrespectful, but the fact that people are still providing any reaction to such heated opinions, really shows the mettle behind the madness.
There are valid points, sure. With enough context we could link all kinds of things together. The premise of the article is heinous. One individual, writing to the masses (who they know almost none of) with a half baked opinion and a million buzzwords.
When the first loom was forged by the hands of man, some poor individual saw the impending blanket statements for the rest of time.
“But teenagers are not capable of this. They lack the ability to accurately estimate risk. They are impulsive.”
Where do I even begin. You don’t start a sentence with but. You have degraded all of humanity that has lived to adulthood (with no reference to any justification). You are really only stating your own blind spots and personal judgement about AN AGE GROUP indiscriminate of which walk of life.
All kinds of cultural heroes had vast accomplishments by their teen years or earlier, I’d be willing to bet you could link up with some of them, if you could see the trees from the forest.
There are some points here. Not enough to be worth mentioning. This is not educational, it’s definitely not thought provoking, and it isn’t well enough written to have all these people exchanging opinions in such a stressful manner.
“In 1991, Eve Sedgwick published an essay that may be said to have initiated contemporary queer theory’s consideration of childhood as a site of heteronormative intervention… [I] suggest that a queer methodological approach to child development and education can more generally disrupt teleologically constructed narratives of growth that require a developmental sequence which culminates in normalcy… Applying queer methods of analysis to studies of childhood can help to queer the rhetoric of innocence that constrains all children and help to refuse attempts to calculate the child’s future before it has the opportunity to explore desire… Strengthening a conceptual relation between ‘queer’ and ‘childhood’ can help to cultivate a culture of critique concerning the interruptive force of heteronormativity on the child’s development…”
“Queer futurity and childhood innocence: Beyond the injury of development”
Hannah Dyer
Oct 2016
journals.sagepub.com/
Your criticism is well-taken, but your central point is also faulty:
Neuroscience tells us that kids don’t begin to develop comprehension of the consequences of their actions until age 16 and that portion of the brain isn’t ‘finished cooking’ in some individuals until age 25.
That is science; not opinion, not conjecture. Postulating about past historical figures who may have been minors does not add to the argument, for or against.
If the issue is; ‘can a child make these decisions, fully understanding the consequences?’ Then science gives us our answer: a resounding ‘no’.
What more needs to be said – other than this, it is just adults making decisions for themselves, which is none of our business.
Thanks for information pertaining to this blog being a blog. Given it is a blog & those use it know it is – is it now a blogblog ? Jack – i too wish your sort of hegelism still had dreadful progressive rock records such as ‘tales from topographic oceans’ to pour scorn on.
”There are valid points, sure. With enough context we could link all kinds of things together. The premise of the article is heinous. One individual, writing to the masses (who they know almost none of) with a half baked opinion and a million buzzwords”.
Sorry about the dichotomy factor – but how do you know what they want then ? – a silly biased study like this ?
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36935303/
you’re a moron. you are the enemy. YOU ARE AN AWFUL PERSON!
We really shouldn’t see each other like this.
Thank you.
If teens can’t make decisions about themselves and their own bodies why do we expect them to be able to get jobs, organise schoolwork/homework, date, drive, make decisions about their future careers, etc. Why are you drawing the line at personal expression?
Yes! I completely agree. Also, kids don’t just decide to be trans one day because they think it is popular or fun, this is something that people spend years with, from an early age, meddling with. There is so much internalized questioning involved. I PERSONALLY think that we are seeing an increase in the amount of trans people today is because society is more open and excepting. We have terminology now. Before this we didn’t see as many because they kept it so incredibly secret because it was not excepted or because they simply were not educated on the subject and didn’t know what they might be feeling. Furthermore, I’ve read the comments, and it SEEMS like quite a few people think that trans kids and teens are forcing people to give them hormone blockers or such, but mainly what I see happen is that trans kids and teens social transition, or maybe, when they’re older, take a small dosage of hormones or hormone blockers.(not to mention that cis kids and teens are prescribed these as well to help with early puberty and such, but there is little to no backlash about that)
I feel like people should have the freedom to explore their identity as children and even adults. Gender is not a binary, and it can change.(It is completely possible that someone’s kid could identify more with a boy and then a year later identify with a girl. It could keep on shifting.) I also remembered the author of the main post said something like their 15 year old son had come up to them, and told them they were trans, and I would just like the author to remember that they could have been feeling this way years in advance. Finally, I fully recommend looking at this story from every perspective. Even if you don’t agree with it. Maybe read something written by a trans person or have a conversation with someone who doesn’t agree with that. Listen to everybody’s story before coming here, to the internet, and hating the other side in the comments or some random post. Especially, when you haven’t even tried to understand other people first (I’m talking about pro-trans people and anti-trans people alike). Not one side is all right or all wrong. It’s not all just about data, people should hear about personal experiences as well. Okay, I’m going to leave it here. If you read this, thanks for giving it a read. Tolerate each other everybody. Bye.
“Transgender Guidance: Schools To Keep Parents Informed”
from: radical far-Left government/globalist propagandist BBC bbc.com/news/uk
article by BBC News’ “LGBT correspondent & LGBT producer” 19 Dec 2023
UK Department for Education’s new 2023 Transgender Guidance applies to all schools in England:
“Teaching staff, pupils and parents … do not have to observe a child’s chosen name and pronouns if they ‘hold protected religious [such as Islam] or other beliefs that conflict with [child transing and radical transgendrist ideology]’. The guidance also says toilets, changing rooms and some sports should be separated based on a child’s birth sex.
The guidance also:
• Reaffirms single-sex schools’ right to refuse to admit pupils of the opposite sex, even if they are questioning their gender
• Says primary school aged children (aged 11 and under) should not have different pronouns to their sex
• Encourages schools to hold gender-questioning children to ‘the same [school] uniform standard as other children of their sex’
• Requires schools to record the name and biological sex of every pupil in the admissions register”
Also see spiked-online.com Feb 2024: “Is Canada finally seeing sense on trans? Alberta’s premier is leading the fightback against the medical transitioning of children.”
The UK, Scandinavia, the Netherlands and other European countries, along with many U.S. states (and even Canada) are rejecting the mass-psychosis-formation ideology of societal Child Transing (and its abusive enabler: maternal Transhausen-by-proxy syndrome) on scientific, ethical and common sense grounds, just as most of the Middle East, Africa, China and non-Western countries reject and outlaw Child Transing on religious, cultural and political grounds.
I totally agree with you, Donna.. Don’t let this cult influence you in changing your viewpoint! It’s a handful of people that are social outcasts that don’t have a better way of standing out besides transforming themselves in jesters. They give off the feeling of numbers, but the only reason for that is because they don’t do anything else with their time but create accounts and harass people online.
You realise that you lot are the cult right?
Anti-Trans is the cult.
Hah..this comment too?
We need to stop demonizing the other side. We are just people.
A new medical service, completely backed by The Science, provides Trained Gender Experts who can reveal your child’s Authentic Gender within months of birth. The Science has proven that fetal Gender is colonized in the womb by transphobia transmitted in utero by far-right emanations. Academic evidence verifies that the human GenderJourney begins at fertilization but is genocided at birth by uneducated obstetric doctors’ genital-centric cisterrorism.
To decolonize perinatal transphobia, Gender Experts called TranaDoulas, the Midwives of Gender, deliver full Transing Services to birthing persons and their pre-gendered babies. TranaDoulas can detect Authentic Gender at five months when a baby’s eyes can distinguish colours. The Gender Expert uses a peer-proven scientific technique called ‘Blueberry or Raspberry: Blue Boy or Pink Girl?’ The TranaDoula holds a raspberry and a blueberry in front of the infant. The colour of the berry touched by the baby reveals the child’s Authentic Gender.
If a child who was assigned female genitals at birth selects the blueberry, then HE will be Transed as male because blue means boy. If a child who was assigned male genitals at birth selects the raspberry, then SHE will be Transed as female because pink means girl. Babies whose berry colour selections correspond to their doctor-assigned genitals are retested weekly by TranaDoulas until the infants give the correct decolonized noncisnormative Authentic Gender response so that lifelong pharma-surgical and psycho-ideological Transing can begin.
Funny joke. Get with the times sweetie.
that is the most bizarre and pychotic thing i have ever read. and because trans activists are the most bizarre and psychotic people i have ever see…..i believe every word of it.
correction: i believe that THEY believe every word of it.
Congratulations, you have written nothing, you have communicated very little. You narrative does perhaps offer insight into why she shouldn’t base our gender identity on arbitrary things such as fruit and reproductive organs.
Jorgensen, this is why they’re telling you to lay off the meth… What the hell did I just read? TransDoulas? Berries? Weird fantasies you’ve got mate.
not only is this post stupid basing things she knows nothing about, but i agree hormones should be done after 18, but not puberty blockers. those should be limited to 16.
this isnt a phase, a choice, or anything like that. i tried for many years to ignore it. gender dysphoria never just goes away without intervention. if it did; then that doesnt fit the criteria to be considered gender dysphoria. why? because its a symptom of the incongruence between our brains and body. it isnt a condition like you think. trans people can be proven to have dysphoria multiple ways.
i believe its for the best we dont say things that arent true. thus must point out those discrepancies.
Have you ever wondered why it’s commonplace for normal kids to receive puberty blockers but not the trans kids?
As the mother of a trans youth I disagree with what you say. It’s understandable that some teens will go through a phase perhaps but if you took even a second to realize what a day in the life of a transgender teen might be like you might realize that unless they like being an outcast and a political scapegoat it makes no sense for them to continue this “phase”. Most transgender teens don’t de-transition because they want to. They do it to fit in better and because they aren’t allowed to be who they are. I’m baffled at to why people care so much what one family decides to do to help their children. Do you really think you are saving a child while to spend your time belittling their cognitive abilities and making sure that they feel more alienated? What heroes you are.
They’re lying to push transphobia. The “multiple studies” they link to conclude that 85% desist, wasn’t and didn’t. I’m glad that this type of misinformation is being flagged as hate speech because that’s the entire point of spreading these lies.
you’re a fuckin jackass.
Quote of the ladies, gentlemen and non-binary specimens.
Sweaty Grandpa calls someone a “fuckin jackass” for…drum roll please…telling the truth.
And you say that teens are the immature ones.
The Transhausen-by-Proxy is strong with this one.
“Research from Correctional Service Canada (CRC) shows that 44 percent of the nation’s trans women detainees have a history of sexual offending.”
“Adam Laboucan was sentenced in 1997 for raping a baby at 15-years-old. Laboucan was moved to a women’s prison by 2017 after transitioning to a woman.”
“Twice-convicted killer [trans woman] Harvey Marcelin, aka Marcelline Harvey, is charged with first- and second-degree murder in the death of Susan Leyden.”
“The Colorado Springs shooter identified as non binary. The Denver shooter identified as trans. The Aberdeen shooter identified as trans. The Nashville shooter [Audrey Hale] identified as trans.”
“‘Trans Day of Vengeance’ Date, Details as Activists Say ‘We Choose to Fight’
Mar 30, 2023.”
Any news on ftm? Or are they to mild mannered, having been born female?
Mass murderess “ftm” Audrey Hale:
On March 27, 2023 in Nashville, Tennessee, 28-year-old Audrey Elizabeth Hale, an “ftm” transgender (female pretending to be a male) used a machine gun to slaughter three nine‑year‑old children, Evelyn Dieckhaus, William Kinney, and Hallie Scruggs, and three adults, teacher Cynthia Peak, principal Katherine Koonce, and (61-year-old black male) custodian Mike Hill. It is the deadliest mass shooting in Tennessee history.
It’s almost like people who are marginalised and disadvantaged by society feel like that have no options… hmmmmmmm
For parents who are looking for education about the lies of transing, watch this new video at Spiked Online (video/john-moneys-monstrous-gender-experiment). Learn about the infamous maniac who invented transing: the monstrous Dr Money.
Money’s name was prophetic since transing became the multi-billion dollar Trans Inc. medical-industrial complex designed to extort money from mentally ill children’s parents and emotionally disturbed adults.
Parents must educate themselves about these two primary Trans Inc. facts:
1. The purpose of transing is solely financial.
2. The function of trans’ suicide threats (“Amputate my breasts/genitals or I’ll kill myself!”) and trans’ death threats (“Die Cis Scum! Kill Terfs Dead!”) is to intimidate and terrorize parents and other targets into compliance with Trans Inc.’s financial agendas via emotional manipulation and actual violence. (Trans is the only “human rights” group in history to adopt death threats as their political slogan.)
From the video:
“Dr John Money is the godfather of trans ideology. His ideas about sex and gender are treated as unassailable today… [Money’s] experiments with ‘gender reassignment’ were creepy, sinister and left a trail of death and misery in their wake… [This Spiked video] tells the tragic story of David Reimer, the boy who Money tried – and failed – to turn into a girl.” [David later killed himself because Money’s ‘treatment’ ruined his body and his life.]
Also see new research from Europe:
Overview with links at: city-journal.org Dec 1/23
“A Raging Transgender Debate in the Netherlands.
The Dutch, who pioneered gender medicine, are having second thoughts about puberty blockers and other interventions.”
The Society for Evidence Based Gender Medicine (SEGM)
segm.org Nov 19/23
“The 2023 Dutch Debate Over Youth Transitions.
Medical, legal, and cultural debate over the practice of youth gender transitions has come to the birthplace of the Dutch Protocol”
Woah trying to stop the rich from corrupting our youth, a good call, think you could do the American gun laws (or lack there of) next, kills way more people so it might be a better use of you time?
I’m to busy trying to get old ladies like you to understand my gender to reply to all of these incorrect ideas and comments, so lets start here. I am a trans demiboy still in the process of transitioning. I use he/they pronouns, and LITERALLY WANT TO CHOP MY BOOBS OFF AND MAKE THEM INTO A MAKESHIFT DICK- fuck all of you who think thats wrong, my body is mine and how does seeing someone find a way to make themselves happy hurt any of you? While 16 may be to young to use drugs and drink in mass amounts because our brains our still developing, we have feelings. It’s people like you who have made me to afraid to come out for 3 years, and have scared me into believing I don’t belong. Thank you, you are the reason I want to die.
My step daughter says she is a boy, which she is most definitely not. She has put her mother through so much pain it is heart breaking to watch! You say you don’t hurt anyone….you are wrong!! My wife has to suffer so much watching her daughter, who has no signs of being a boy/male, destroy and mutilate her body!!! My wife who carried and MADE THIS BODY IN HER OWN BODY!! Has to watch her daughter be brainwashed by a cult of disillusioned people convince her stepdaughter to do this!
Don’t sit there and say your not hurting anyone! Because you mostly differently are!
If he’s hurting his body, clearly his mom isn’t trying hard enough to protect him. Proper binding doesn’t mutilate the body, it just encourages mental health. It’s important to talk to your child, and allow them the freedom to make decisions. I personally don’t attempt to “brainwash” people into being trans, the only thing I do is remind people of my preferred pronouns and explain what transitioning is to people who don’t understand.
Do you think your StepChild cries when they hear you say these things?
Does creating a human give you the right to control that human?
Has your stepchild tried to remove their own body parts or is this just a projection of your own fears?
Why is your wife upset?
Can you identify some “signs of being a boy/male”?
I’m sure he hears all the things you say about him, and the disgusting things you say about his body. Your lack of kindness will not be forgotten, and every day you write more in stone. You’re not losing your daughter. You’re ensuring your son will leave you for people who will actually love and cherish him.
What would your stepson think if he heard you saying this sort of stuff? I mean, you’re acting as if he’s ruining your life by being trans. I’m sure that when he grows up and moves out of the house, he’s going to cut all ties with you, and you’re going to wonder why he isn’t talking to you.
IT LOOKS LIKE THE DEVIL IS WINNING! HOWEVER JESUS IS REALER THAN REAL! CHOOSE JESUS! EVEN IF YOU HATE HIM!
Actually, I’m currently looking into Buddhism. The whole “God loves everyone, but only if everyone follows his son” thing is weird in my brain
1. realer is not a word.
2. the idea that something is ‘more real than real’ is somewhat paradoxical and highly amusing.
3. I have proof from the last ten years that Trans people exist how about you?
4. Do you chose to eat vegetables you don’t too?
Bless you and don’t listen to the nonsense these haters preach. You know your body and how you feel. Going on hormones is a huge decision and should not be taken lightly. In regards to only being able to go forward and not back, that’s incorrect. My niece was trans and after a few years came to the realization that she actually did and identify as a female. You would never know looking at her that she was taking meds to transition to male.
it is your body and you have every right to exist and live your best life be it male or female you have friends out here who are fighting for you every day .im a 60 year old male to female trans
and living my best life
Update: Starting hormones, and you know what the experts told me? If I ever wanted kids, or didn’t want to continue being male presenting, I could get off of them and do either of those things, without any real damage. Imagine that!
It’s almost like hormones have existed for years and been used for more than transitioning and that we, as a scientific society have actually done research and that doctors don’t like putting harmful substances in people for fun. Amazing.
Truly incredible!
You are too young to understand.
You’re too old to understand
The amount of false hope and false information is astronomical. Your kid is trans. And you having this “hope” that it’s a “phase” is sickening. I hope you get past this phase of shitty mom cult Facebook writer. And hormone blockers don’t affect the brain in any shape way or form. It affects your hormones….hence why they’re called HORMONE blockers. I guess any 40+ year old miserable married mother can put “fact” in front of something and all the cult 40+ year old Facebook moms are all over it like flies on shit. Please get a life. Maybe if you spent half as much time with your child as you do writing about your child online, you’d be able to understand them better.
Diaper change in Aisle One.
Paging Dr. Mengele. One of your feral child psychotics is tantrum pooping on Mommy’s carpet again to get attention. Straightjacket, Doctor?
I do agree with you that calling it a “phase” is wrong, but I would like to point out that I’m pretty sure, and I might be wrong, that the brain does create hormones. However, I don’t believe that they affect the brain and body in ways that people have claimed they do on here, such as an inability to form calcium, paralysis, or brain deficiencies, causing neurodivergence (ADHD, ASD, etc.)
Then such persons either have no brain or no Hypothalamus then 🙂
Further inculcated / voluntary self harm can be expected concerning the way blockers are very crude chemical blunt objects not much better than mild bleach rinse.
As a cognitive neuroscience i can reasonable say that some neurone assemblies manifest due to a domini style affect once sexual maturity begins. Some of these white matter developments will not happen, I.E they’ll never happen once they been prevented from doing so.
“Some of these white matter developments will not happen, I.E they’ll never happen once they been prevented from doing so.”
Bullseye.
This is the entire point of Trans Inc: Dumb them down, then thug them up. They’re manufacturing ideological pawns.
“Truly, whoever can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities.”
Voltaire 1765 “Questions sur les miracles”
The general idea is to mind-scramble, to turn off critical thinking. That goes for everyone. A pair of 1970s cult researchers once called this point the mind-SNAP. After which, an external narrative empowered one’s mind. A narrative of any totalitarian group is meant to keep the prey living without personal agency, in complete submission to the leader. This is why they aim for turning-off critical thinking. Such as getting you to believe insane ideas.
Then they should probably stop giving puberty blockers to the normal kids, since that’s the primary user demographic. And you’re not a neuroscientist. You can tell the Karens whatever you want, but everyone else knows.
So it’s more than two years later, and with 100+ comments I am sure no-one will read this, but on the off chance someone *does*
“If your teen is like mine (no evidence of gender non-conformity throughout their life, profoundly gifted, socially isolated) they are probably going to desist. If they are like my friends’ kids (ADHD, Asperger’s/ASD) they are probably going to desist.”
I was that teen. And I let nobody know because the very few times I even let a hint drop about being transgender, it was brutally (to me, an undiagnosed ASD) suppressed. I learned masking and more – staying in the closet – at the taunts of the children around me and the parental disapproval of literally anything that seemed to be on the femme side of allowable activities. Neurodivergent children – in particular – are *very* good at hiding from a world that they rapidly discover is generally hostile to them.
It is easy to be smug and self-satisfied as a parent when you have no idea of the suffering to which you are subjecting your children. Don’t do that. Listen to them. Engage with deep respect for the young human that they are. At the least you will build a deeper relationship with your child, so what do you have to lose?
Dear Caoimhe,
How did it turn out for you? Are you still the person you wanted to be physically? Did you move forward with how you felt as a teen? I am curious. I read all these comments and some are pretty brutal and rude. I am trying to listen and I just want to know outcomes from kids that have been through it. The statistics and studies are flawed from the 80’s and from Amsterdam. There really isn’t great data to go by. I guess I am wondering if you would give me an honest answer about how it turned out for you. I see that you wish your parents would listened and been supportive, but was it still a road you chose or did you desist out of fear?
i knew at 5 even though 1969 trans was even known and yes i fully transitioned im living my best life at 60 and have been for many years as a woman .not being able to change during my teen years caused a lot of emotional damage to me i will never me passable but at least im happy with my life now
I didn’t know until I was 16. Some know sooner, some much later. I was on high doses of antidepressants starting at 13. I started transitioning when I was 21. For the first time ever, I was approved to lower my antidepressant dosage. And again after one surgery. My depression isn’t cured, but I’m significantly happier. I’m more confident, I’m taking better care of my health/body, I just feel better. I’m more me.
“A big part of the reason why so many children of white progressive parents have identified as transgender during the last few years is that they can’t bear thinking of themselves as members of an oppressive class.”
Bruce Bawer, 9/11/23 FrontpageMag.com
I have been saying this since Child Transing (and all adult male autogynephile Transing) began twenty years ago:
Transing is a simulacra of non-whiteness.
Transing is a “get out of white” free card.
Transing is a self-marginalizing totem-fetish offering made by terrified progressives to magical Social-Ranking spirits as a form of fake atonement for pretend guilt over their neurotically-conceived fear of “moral” status demotion based solely on their now “evil” skin colour.
Cunning disingenuous white progressive parents smear their own Facebook panic-feces/clown make-up on the faces of their children to masquerade their offspring as “oppressed”.
Transing sacrifices their child to the gods of Woke by forcing a place for it, and thus themselves, on the intersectionality hierarchy ladder of Leftist “moral” purity, thereby redeeming the white progressive parents as “good”, meaning not “fascist”, subservient-snivelling-obedient-nihilist lackeys of the Authoritarian Collectivist State.
In other words, parents who Trans their own (and other people’s) children are human scum.
Nice fiction, did you write by yourself?
It’s interesting to see that no professionals in this field made any comments. For the person who said that hormone blockers don’t have a negative impact on the brain, are you seriously dumb??? Human hormones are produced and controlled by the pituitary gland inside the brain. Google it if you don’t believe me. I don’t think any teenagers should be allowed to take life altering decisions ever. Their lack of life experience and the fact that their feelings are all over the place should be the first no no flags in any of such major life ruining decisions. If teenagers are so great at taking decisions, I invite them to do all the hard work jobs, without them learning anything. Go be electricians, plumbers, design bridges and buildings at the age of 16 if you think experience or learning about what you can actually do doesn’t matter. I believe that the latest generation of humans just want to cut corners through life and don’t want to put a bit of hard work in to get some results. People’s feelings don’t matter so much when there is a clear goal to achieve. If we were always run by personal feelings we wouldn’t have left the caves or trees to become a civilisation.
Excellent. The best theory i’ve heard to date.
Nice fascist projection. Accuse your opponent of supporting totalitarianism and social hierarchies when that’s exactly what you support.
Please write an actually good article. do Any amount of research and you will see this is the wrong approach. to ignore your child’s gender identity will only make them more anxious, depressed, and distrustful of you. i propose that you as a parent ask your child questions and learn about their experience. every trans person will have a different experience, and wether your kid ends up being trans or not they will be thankful that you supported them and respected them through it. also effed up that the parent writing this article dreads finding their child a therapist. like ???? that shows a clear lack of competence and care for your child’s wellbeing. parents who dont give a darn what their kids want really urk me. im sorry for your kid. i hope they come out again and that it messes you up, Donna. get bent.
@The trans: did you miss the part about 85% of kids desisting by adulthood? read it again. There is a very high possibility that this child will NOT be trans… maybe gay. Trans is really rare.
If you had kids, you would know that sometimes you have to say NO to them, and this can be very hard to do, because most of us want to be the fun loving parent who always says YES. But if you did that about everything… your kid would never do homework or go to bed before 2AM on school nights and they would eat candy at every meal.
It is not respect or love to kowtow to an immature teens ideas.
Did you actually click through and read the study? 36% of participants weren’t ever diagnosably gender dysphoric, and those are included in that “85%”, inflating the number. Further, that was a study on children ages 3-12, and the study found that the older a child was, the more likely they were to persist (which matches other studies that note that gender incongruence past age 10 tends to be for life). This poor kid was 15, now 16. Why not cite a study that studies people that age? Because those show that by that age, adult gender is actually pretty clear internally even if the outside world won’t believe it. And that’s not the conclusion the author wants.
What galls me especially is how confidently the author writes about outcomes as if from personal experience while she’s still in the middle of it. Had she written about her independently living 25-year-old grateful to have been stopped at 15, it’d be different. Right now it reads as “I’m fighting my teen on who they are and know I’m right”.
My mom said “no” to me and I’m still trans 10 years later. What exactly was your point with that?🤣🤣
Well said. Good parents will not listen to this rubbish only the ones that don’t care about their kids.
My mom didn’t listen to the “rubbish” either and I’m still trans 10 years later. What y’all are thinking is “oh if I tell my kid no then they won’t do it” and that’s not how it works. If anything your kid is now thinking “oh she doesn’t care so I’m going to go ahead with it”. That’s all you’re really doing. If you moms spend half as much time with your kid rather then spending the time writing about your kid online, maybe your kid would be able to talk to you about these things…oh wait no they can’t because you said “it’s rubbish”. So congratulations on being your child’s worse case of broken trust!!!! Good job!!! Let me get the cake and balloons to celebrate another failed mother
@the trans,
You obviously don’t have kids. If you did, you would probably know them better than anyone else will. If your child comes to you one day and says they feel like they’re supposed to be the opposite sex, and they’ve never given any hints or displayed any behavior that might give credence to their feelings, then simply accepting it and going along with it is child abuse.
Simply removing your reproductive organs doesn’t remove your sex. Its built into your DNA. Your sex isn’t determined at birth, it’s determined at conception. For boys, that “Y” Chromosome, which is embedded in the sperm that fertilized your mother’s egg at conception is fused into your genes for the entirety of your life. You can cut off and replace your genitals with unnatural and poorly functional versions of the opposite sex, but you will always be who you are.
Why do you think so many people are detransitioning? If their initial assertion that they were born in the wrong body was true and off limits for debate, lest ye be condemned as a “trans phobe”, then why, once said trans person matures, do so many of them reverse their transition (assuming they haven’t had their genitals cut off)?
Donna’s advice is sage and even handed. Love your kids, but don’t just affirm their gender woes without at least asking important questions and taking the time to really discuss what they’re feeling and why they feel that way. If you’re sitting there one day, drinking your morning coffee, and your daughter comes to you and says “Dad, I think I’m actually a boy”, don’t just calmly respond, “Okay, son, I’ll see about getting your breats removed”.
I think the hard core, ultra left activists are fueling this epidemic of kids confusing normal hormonal feelings with this notion that they were born in the wrong body. I went through those feelings when I was a teenager, but I didn’t have the curse of social media and an online army of uneducated gender “experts” telling me that my feelings meant I was trans.
There are real, albeit rare cases of people who genuinely trans. They do exist, and should be respected. However, no female knows what being a male feels like, and no male knows what being female is like. Knowing that, then how come so many think they do? For me, because I didn’t have social media to influence me, I grew up and realized I was bisexual.
Do you want children to kill themselves? There is nothing wrong with affirming your child’s identity. Also there are people with xx chromosomes that have male anatomy and the other way around, there can also be people with xxy chromosomes (it’s rare but it happens). My point is that the information you are spreading is dangerous and incorrect. You mention a bunch of people detransitioning, according to who? People detransitioning is very rare. Also this article straight up is just wrong, hormones are 100% reversible. Why are you so worried about if your child has a penis or vagina? Why do you think so much about the genitals of children? Why are you so focused on controlling kids bodies? Even in an alternate universe where this poorly written article is true, let’s say for arguments sake that your kid is trans and it’s “just a phase” you aren’t supposed to try and force kids to change, it can be very harmful to their identity. Trans people are people to, if you’d actually do the research you’d find countless papers showing that when recording the brain waves of trans women the patterns are the same as people assigned female at birth. The same thing goes for trans men. Also nobody is “forcing” kids to be trans, they are just saying, “hey I know figuring out your identity is stressful but I’ll support you no matter what,” that isnt forcing anybody to be anything. And one final thing, according to a study published in the national institute of health, because of the hate and misinformation from people like you 82% of trans people have considered killing themselves and 40% have actually tried to kill themselves. Trans people have existed for as long as humanity has existed. Stop trying to police kid’s bodies and just fuck off.
The trans:
Many of the therapists you tout are the blind leading the blind. Many are LGBT. I have to wonder what are the chances they are boosters for their crowd, trying to justify the dogma they seized upon years ago. I have yet to encounter a transgender person who was a truly persuasive representative of the gender they assumed. It’s a cruel hoax. It doesn’t work. There is no such thing as the bionic super human. Any surgically created supposed solution will be inferior to the biological original. No doubt, numerous people are confused about their sexuality. “I know,” says the trans cult, “let’s, main, disfigure, castrate, and sterilize them! That should fix things!” Modern medicine has a lot to offer us, but we must be very careful to avoid the self impressed fools playing God and doing it poorly. This is a nearly $1b/year industry. It’s touted at 10+ percent growth per year. People will do a lot to protect their six-figure incomes. Got to make medical school pay somehow. Let the buyer beware is a clause that is never rescinded.
2 things.
1) educate yourself. Google is free. Because all of what you said is false information that was spread by other culty 40+ year old moms on fake book.
2) we aren’t in 1970s-1980s anymore, mind blowing right? That means things have chaaaanged. Wow! Crazy right?
And if you think that kids being “trans” is sad then you’re missing the bigger picture that these culty 40+ year old moms living on fake book aren’t paying attention to their kids. Hence why these kids today also have “No respect”. I think y’all fail to remember that YOU GUYS RAISED THIS GENERATION YALL GOT NOBODY TO BLAME BUT YOURSELVES🤣🤣🤣🤣
”2 things.”
Haven’t you got a ”richard dawkins I.Q. must be what 1367 ? ” sort of review to write before dawkins loses his patience over what he paid for ? Heres a typical link where paid for reviewers are chucking their underpants at the dozy old fool :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XHvzXSIM6cg&lc=UgypBgw6gPzUyROtJGN4AaABAg.9tzE28HDEeRA0jTw2BI_SB
The parent’s recommendation makes much better sense than what you suggest here.
I first came out as nonbinary at the age of 17, and this January I will have been out for a decade. Before then I flip flopped between identifying as bisexual and lesbian since the age of 12. Today I have finally settled comfortably into the label of “nonbinary lesbian.” (I know that is incredibly confusing to some people but let’s just move on, it’s not really that important.)
It took me a long time and a lot of soul searching to reach this point. It is because of my own journey, as well as those of people I have known, that I urge young trans people to WAIT before making drastic permanent changes.
I support social transition for the sake of experimentation, (how else will one learn if they’re really trans or not??) but physical transition is a really massive undertaking! I hate how medicalized being trans is. Medical transition is not right for all trans people, and certainly not for the unfortunate few who think they’re trans but actually aren’t!
But between the ages of 18 and 19 I identified as a man for a little over a year or so. That only happened because of social pressure to “go all the way” because “otherwise I was fake.” I could have permanently altered my body with hormones I wasn’t even completely sure about just to pass as a member of a gender I don’t really care for.
I tried to get on HRT, but was told by a doctor she wouldn’t treat me until I was 21. I nearly killed myself after that appointment! And while I still stand that she was terribly rude to me, not at all a good example of how to handle a fragile young dysphoric person, she did ironically kinda save my life.
Now I am finally re-considering actually getting top surgery, something I have always wanted but eventually gave up on pursuing in the sake of trying to make peace with my physical body. The peace has not been achieved despite my best efforts. I have had the privilege of breast feeding my beautiful child and that makes it worth it to have kept these things for all this time, but now especially since I know I cannot have another child, I think I can confidently rid myself of them.
That’s over 10 years of consideration! I had dysphoria since before I could put words to it, long before I ever came out as anything other than cisgender. I wish our society wasn’t so “I want it NOW!” about everything. The trans people I know who are the most content post-transition either came out later in life or physically transitioned after much consideration and a long time after discovering their identity.
The first person I ever met who identified as trans ended up detransitioning. She doesn’t think she was ever really trans, just deeply traumatized by sexual abuse. Her story scares me. After coming out she was constantly strongly encouraged to be more masculine by people around her, and shamed whenever she showed interest in femininity. Now she’s stuck in a permanently altered body and still of course deeply traumatized!
She was so young when she started HRT and not much older when she got top surgery. It isn’t fair that nobody ever offered her an alternative. I was there through all of it, I wish I’d known better back then. I saw the signs. We both played “dress up” in secret and I loved the feminine side of her. But I too feared questioning her male identity because I didn’t want to be seen as mean or transphobic… Even though I turned out to be the one who is in any capacity “actually trans.”
In summary: there’s a middle ground here. Trans people exist, and some of them thrive after medical transition. But let’s face it, it is incredibly risky to allow 12-18 year olds to make such drastic changes to their bodies, and they should be encouraged to wait, as lovingly and understandingly as possible. Address any underlying issues first. If they still want to transition, educate them on all the risks and realities in detail before commencing. All of this needs to be done on a case-by-case basis too, no standardized timeline, because that could rush some people and be too late for others.
In all of the disturbing comments from “Trans” that I have read and heard over the past 20 years, this comment is one of the saddest. A female who has given birth to a precious baby and has providing her beloved child the milk of life as female humans have done since the dawn of humanity says of her life-giving breasts: Now I want to rid myself of them.
You state you have a child. You must have a life. Yet all you can think about is how you want to amputate your breasts to rid yourself of them. Do you actually hear what you are saying?
Picture this: Every time a female picks up her baby and sees her hands as they lift the child, she says to herself: I want to rid myself of these things attached to the ends of my arms. What would you think of this statement? That it is deranged! That this person is not in her right mind. That she needs proper psychiatric help (and not from the Trans-Medical-Industrial-Complex that vampirizes mental illness for their own profit).
This seriously mentally ill person needs to figure out why she is so repulsed by a natural part of her own living body to the extent that she wants it amputated. This person needs to do the hard inner work to transform this repulsion into acceptance of herself as she really is: a Human Being! A life! Not a lump of rotting flesh to chop up because of a manufactured delusion. If you have cancer, you remove flesh to stop the cancer from spreading. But you don’t have cancer! You have mental illness. And you can’t amputate mental illness. It will still be there when your breasts have been amputated.
You need help. Your child needs help. Humanity needs help. Our decadence has metastasized into a societal cancer where insanity is claimed as normal so monsters can profit off sad people’s delusions by cutting up their bodies for money. Fixations and obsessions with amputating any healthy part of any human body is the definition of a human gone mad and the monsters performing these atrocities for profit are the definition of a society that deserves to die.
Help your child by helping yourself. Get proper non-Trans psychiatric help now.
You’re creepy Thirteen. Even if this person were hypothetically cis and not trans, reducing a cis woman to their breasts and capability of procreation is messed up. That is inappropriate to say about any stranger’s body.
Oh get over yourself. Trans people exist, end of story. The fact is maybe you’re comfortable in your own body, or maybe you’re so uncomfortable that you have to take it out on some other innocent person, but that is not their problem. Keep your religion and baby fever off of people’s rights.
PS, you write like you middle schooler. Never use “picture this”
So if you would’ve killed yourself after that first appointment (as you allegedly almost did) would you have been a “victim” of anti-trans sentiment or just another impulsive teenager that killed themselves?
Hey, just politely asking, can you explain nonbinary lesbian to me? I just wanna know, that’s an interesting idea! No hate here!
“A time is coming when men will go mad, and when they see someone who is not mad, they will attack him, saying, You are mad; you are not like us.”
St. Anthony the Great, circa 250AD
MATER ECCE PUER TUUS
(Mother behold your child.)
MATER VIDE TE IPSUM
(Mother behold yourself.)
Rapid onset gender dysphoria is in fact a myth. trans people do not convert other people into being trans. usually when a person meets trans person and comes out as trans soon after, thats because they havent been exposed to a trans person who they can relate to before. transgender people make up 1.7-0.3% of the population. it is not common to meet a transgender person in many places. so when people with undiagnosed gender dysphoria meet trans people they may have a revelation that has been long coming. this is a breaking of a floodgate not a catalyst event. and it is most certainly not an intention action from the transgender person in question.
ROGD has been studied and it is real. It does not mean there are no authentic trans individuals.
It means RIGHT NOW, for the last 5 or 6 years (complicated a lot by COVID)… there is a huge amount of social contagion in schools and on social media, pushing vulnerable teens (many with Aspergers or other mental health issues) into trans identification.
You would have to be AMISH today to not see trans on TV or the internet, or being pushed relentlessly in schools, libraries, government, big business or a full MONTH of Pride Parades.
Just wanted to touch on the mental health issues thing, did you know neurodivergent people are more likely than neurotypical people to identify as a part of the LGBTQIA+ community? Just a nice little fact, thought you might want to think about it!
https://www.theswaddle.com/why-theres-more-gender-and-sexuality-diversity-in-the-neurodivergent-community
https://www.kqed.org/news/11937857/significant-overlap-researchers-work-to-understand-connection-between-autism-and-gender-fluidity#:~:text=Eventually%20neuroscience%20could%20help%20explain,understand%20the%20roots%20of%20it.
https://psychcentral.com/adhd/people-with-adhd-more-likely-to-question-gender-identity?scrlybrkr=cd93fe16#how-to-offer-support
You are a truly despicable human being. Your are spreading transphobic rhetoric for the world see. Even if a child is going through “a phase”, what’s wrong with them socially transitioning without the medical side of transition. This way they will get to feel more affirmed in their body. This is thinly veiled transphobia and misinformation you are spreading to people who aren’t as informed on trans issues. Please educate yourself and stop spreading this vile message.
What vile message? they did not say they locking their kids up. They are telling their kid the truth about the RELIGIOUS CULT of Transgenderism… well on display in this forum.
Your problem is actually now we ARE well informed, and not taking your Trans religious B.S. anymore….
The vile message that says it’s better to prevent your child from harmlessly exploring their identity than giving them the safety to do so.
Your inability to see so reflects your naivety and clouded bias.
This article is written with butter and rosebuds, but underneath it’s just thorns.
You could maybe make an argument for not allowing your child to medically transition. There’s no way to justify not letting them explore a social transition, the only harm it could bring comes from others bigotry.
the people who believe this are evil. you’re not saving your children. you’ll be why they leave this world check suicide rates. you’re probably the reason many children willdie now congrats
Problem is… we did. We checked suicide rates and found out that they are the same OR HIGHER among those who transition.
It is cheap, pathetic and hysterical to claim every child will kill themselves if they are not KOWTOWED to immediately and totally by parents and schools….
I needed to read this. My daughter is on the same thing. She is a beautiful girl. Long blonde curly hair, dark full lips, blue eyes, and a naturally thin figure. She was always well liked by her peers, her second grade teacher would say “every morning I’m chasing kids away from your daughters desk. They just can’t get enough of her!” Then, Covid took over. We were stuck in the house and she admittedly spent far too much time wrapped into the internet. Now she’s 11 and thinks she’s a trans man. Squishing down her chest with sports bras 2 sizes to small. Having her peers call her “Chris” and “levi” instead of her real name. Posting trans things on her Pinterest and saying a medical transition should be up to the child. I miss my pretty girl. I miss the girl who always had a friend. Now she’s bullied for her new found “identity”. What a shitty phase.
And I know, you’re reading this and thinking “right wing conservative POS” on the contrary, I’m extremely left leaning, love for all my LGBT friends and all the support to my sisters, not just my “cis” sisters either. But unlike our emo/goth phases in highschool, a trans phase has lasting effects. Permanent changes to the body that cannot be undone. Loss of hair, deep voices, scars from mastectomies. The prices to pay is much higher than the holes left from our snake bites.
The world seems to have forgotten that children phase. It’s nothing new. But for some reason, they believe the moment a child says they’re trans it isn’t a phase and we should take immediate action to help our children conform to their preferred gender, not here. I’ll wait as she phases out of this, if she doesn’t, she gets to make those permanent decisions at 18.
I read your comment and I was so struck by the similarities in our stories. My daughter is a bit older, about to be 15. But same. She was an absolutely gorgeous and outgoing kid all throughout childhood. Then COVID hit, and I was deemed “essential” and away from my kids for months. She laments being the “weird” kid but goes out of her way to wear clothes and style her hair that are, frankly, weird. Wants to go by any name other than her own, including “Vincent” and most recently “Vesper”.
I am of the same political persuasion as you and feel so flabbergasted by the way that the left is so militant about “acceptance” without questioning when the consequences are this high. I was that emo/goth kid in high school and have little doubt I would be doing the same things as my daughter is doing. I desperately want to find a professional to help us through this that is not so blindly accepting that this is who she really is, rather than a manifestation of something else that is troubling her, but so far I am SOL.
@AJ
I’m finding myself in the same boat as you when it comes to finding a therapist that isn’t so blindly accepting. Currently she’s with a young, vibrant and soft spoken woman, I’m not sure if this woman supports her being trans but I have a feeling she does. I don’t know what happened to the medical community and therapists that would see the bigger issue here is mental. I have trans friends as adults that I have known since childhood and we always knew something was up with these ladies (both mtf) they were different even as young children my mother noticed. The difference was these girls spent YEARS pushing down their angst and gender confusion. It wasn’t a trend that all the cool kids did then. It was something that was taboo. We went straight from “burn the LGBT” to “everyone is trans it’s cool now!” There is no happy medium. There is no in between.
Check out https://www.genderexploratory.com/ they encourage an exploratory approach to gender dysphoria (as opposed to an “affirming approach” which = hormones and puberty blockers). They have a “find a therapist” tool and provide you with questions to ask to make sure your child won’t be rushed into medical transition.
Have you found a professional who can understand some nuance and help us parents come to a balanced understanding and help our kids appropriately? I am looking for help.
Hi AJ
there is a brilliant podcast run by two psychotherapists, who believe in a more holistic way of approaching this subject. I am sure you will be able to get information on how to find a therapist who is not just affirming, on their website. The podcast and website is called GENDER A WIDER LENS. Good luck!
I mean… your child is 11, yes pretty young and probably just influenced by the internet. Although, they might also have found out “hey, transgender is a thing!” From the internet and learning more about it to come to the conclusion “am I trans?” How they feel is how they’re gonna feel, even if it is a phase.
Cut her off from the internet immediately unless required for school work or at the minimum heavy restrictions. Look into Bark to monitor her phone usage or take her phone. She’s 11! You may have to be the mean mom that she hates for a while, but that’s part of being a parent. Treat her like she’s under the influence of a cult and needs deprogramming, because that is exactly the situation.
No. Just no. This is absolutely the wrong way of going about this, choose support not aggression.
My son told us he was Pan at 14, trans at 15, and now he is a bisexual male. I supported every one of these phases as he explores his sexuality. He is on his own journey. I agree not to let them take puberty blockers until confirmed. I feel for your struggle. You know your daughter in your heart. Trust your instincts.
“Sparkle Creed, invented by UCC pastrix Rachel Small-Stokes in 2021:
I invite you to rise in body or spirit and let us confess our faith today in the words of the Sparkle Creed.
I believe in the non -binary God whose pronouns are plural. I believe in Jesus Christ their child who wore a fabulous tunic and had two dads and saw everyone as a sibling child of God. I believe in the rainbow spirit who shatters our image of one white light and refracts it into a rainbow of gorgeous diversity.
I believe in the church of everyday saints as numerous, creative, and resilient as patches on the ace quilt. Whose feet are grounded in mud and whose eyes gaze at the stars in wonder. I believe in the calling to each of us that love is love is love.
So beloved, let us love. I believe, glorious God, help my unbelief. Amen.”
2STNBGC (“two-spirit, transgender, non-binary and other gender-diverse children and youth”) Revised Creed of the ‘Trans Holy Trinity: Me Myself and I’ invented by Future-Islam Imamtrix Catatonia el-Beaverhausen (adapted from Tod Browning’s 1932 trans-prophecy masterpiece ‘Freaks’):
“Gooble gobble. Gooble gobble.
We accept her, we accept her.
One of us, one of us!
Gooble gobble. Gooble gobble.”
Puberty blockers are 100% reversible and don’t have any known long lasting effects. As a trans teen on them, I sincerely believe they are a great option to give your kid time to explore their gender identity in a way that gives them more time to figure out what is “wrong” with them without causing more harm. (For example not having to worry about your breast growing or voice deepening.)
I find them great because if it turns out you are cis, you can simply stop taking pbs and your normal puberty will start again as if nothing happened. If turns out you are indeed trans, you haven’t had the mainly permanent changes of puberty that only cause you anguish that comes from not taking them in your early teens. Plus, it makes transition much smoother.
Something important I think I should add is that they don’t hand it out like it’s nothing. First you’ll need to have a couple meetings with gender therapist/therapist and other doctors/endocrinologists. If you are eligible for puberty blockers, you’ll also need to run other tests to get your baseline and to make sure it is okay. These all happen over the course of several months and even year for some. It’s not something quick.
YES to all you said. We’re in the same boat with our 12 year-old daughter. Never a single hint of angst about her gender or identity in her whole life until meeting a new friend group – who all happen to be “something” (two say they’re boys/trans, one claims lesbian, one claims gender fluid, one claims non-binary) not a single kid in the group identifies as a “cis female”) Does she not see how unbelievable it is that 6 out of 6 girls in a group are all “something”? And for sure, there was a dramatic increase in screen time right wound this “declaration”. We are worried about her, no doubt. We love her and want her to feel supported fully, and accepted. But we cannot encourage or support her publicly declaring “I’m a boy”. We are attempting compromise to see how that works – asking her to stick to “non-binary” and “they/them” pronouns, for a few years while going through this tough age… after all – not many people feel “comfortable” in their own skin when going through puberty/tween/early teen years… it doesn’t mean you’re “in the wrong body”. ugh. best wishes to us all.
This is my story almost EXACTLY, except we are using the new name and pronouns. All 6 members of the friend group are “something” and one even said “Why would you be straight? It’s so boring!”
Their not girls, karen
Thank you! Sick of this opinion always determined to be “right wing”. Maybe it is just a phase! Damn people. Settle down with the politics. So if in time they still feel they are trans then let them have surgery and hormones AFTER puberty.
That is loving our children. period. No politics. sheesh.
But if it isn’t a phase, do you want to be remembered for not helping them through a tough time?
The fact that you are teaching your kids that bodily autonomy is wrong, and that their bodies belong to their parents and not themselves is disgusting and even sadder than you claim their situation to be. Exploring your identity regardless if it is gender based or not is a natural part of growing up and maturing.
But you know what they say, all kids deserve parents but not all parents deserve kids.
The Trans Cult’s Reign of Terror has made a new enemy; one that has 1.2 billion members. Get ready for some major blowback:
Muslims across North America are rejecting the Trans Cult and protesting against Trans/Queer ideology being forced on their children in public schools.
Canadian Muslim activist Kamel El-Cheikh is organizing a Million Person March to protest gender ideology and “Pride” month in schools. His goal is to bring together a million Muslims and Canadians of all faiths from coast to coast on Sept 20 2023 in Ottawa and cities across the country. He said Prime Minister Justin Trudeau’s insistence that Muslims accept his views on LGB-Trans/Queer ideology amounts to a “fatwa” or an edict on faith and morals.
El-Cheikh called out Trudeau for suggesting Muslims protesting gender ideology and “Pride” month are just useful idiots for the “American right-wing.” El-Cheikh mocked Trudeau’s Woke bigotry: “Apparently we don’t have the intellect or the doctrines or the divine wisdom through our five daily prayers and our 30 days of fasting during Ramadan to know what is right from wrong.” A recent poll suggests that Trudeau’s arrogance and contempt for parents has decimated his support in Canada’s immigrant community. El-Cheikh says what Trudeau has done is build a growing opposition to his power.
(edited from various online media)
“We are witnessing a unique and welcome phenomenon: Muslims in the West are at the forefront of a social movement… against school boards that wish to teach schoolchildren content about the acceptability of LGBTQ [Trans Cult] lifestyles… As Muslims, we refuse to be coerced into believing something our faith categorically condemns. This is not a political stance. It is a moral principle.”
(from Yasir Qadhi aljazeera.com June 2023)
The fact that you are teaching kids that biological reality is a mere inconvenience and that amputation of healthy organs and tissue is a no-big-deal treatment for a mental health issue is what is wrong. A lifetime of medicalization and increased likelihood of mental health issues, ostracization, self-harm/suicidality, homelessness and joblessness should be a part of every conversation about transition. Instead, we parents are bullied into spitting platitudes and celebrating new identities and hiding all of the discussions, red-tape and legal/educational issues that we have to address (dorms, bathrooms, transcripts, sports, legal ids, and endless endless healthcare issues). We are not allowed to worry, express doubt, mourn the loss of son/daughter, or set rules re fashion choices or peer groups because – transphobia. As parents, we have to accept inappropriateness, immaturity, and the obsessive and all-encompassing, cultish focus of trans-culture in order to be supportive. If my cis kid is underperforming, spending too much time online, sporting blue hair and cartoonish clothes, I’m allowed to intervene. With my trans kid – I’m not allowed to impose boundaries or standards or discipline. It’s bullshit.
On the contrary Lupe, she is entitled to do as she pleases with her body so long as she’s not trying to inhibit her body naturally growing. She doesn’t eat ground beef, that’s okay she however isn’t allowed to not eat at all. She’s allowed to wear whatever, cut/dye her hair, pierce her ears and remove them (as she’s done twice already) choose makeup or none, wear a bra or don’t, wear those beat up converse or wear flip flops. I really don’t care what she does. That being said, she’s not allowed to go on hormone blockers, I won’t be getting her a mastectomy and she’s not going to change who she is because of a trend. The idea that children should be allowed to do whatever they want is asinine. If she’s gay, cool. If she’s straight, cool. If she has 5 kids or zero, awesome. College or working up a ladder? That’s fine. Asking me to put her on medicines to block her body growing naturally? No. She’s has all the say in her body. She’s not big on being touched, so she’s refused to hug most of her family for years. I’m cool with that. It’s her body. I’m cool with her protecting it, changing it and embracing it. Not destroying it.
dont be so obsessed with your kids body. its seriously creepy and i cant take you seriously after that objectifying first sentence. please change and not be annoying. i hope your kid finds peace. let them go if they struggle in your arms, you will hurt them if you hold them too close-especially with your outlook on their person autonomy.
I get being a teenager is hard, but you’re in an adult space demanding that parents allow their children to change their growing bodies to adhere to a trend. That’s very strange and very invasive.
Well, shouldn’t a teen get a say in the things that affect them? This isn’t just a conversation for the adults to have.
You are 100% correct. Let your daughter dress how she wants, even in a too small sports bra… let her try on different names.
But be very clear that she can only make more permanent changes on her 18th birthday and not before… and that you & your husband will not pay for one dime of this. It has to be all her own doing.
You are in for a rough few years but… take hope, because 85% of such kids eventually desist.
So, the only issue I’m seeing is you aren’t exploring options to better protect your child. Look into binders or taping options for your kid, and help them through this. Yes this might be a phase, but it’s a phase you can support your kid through rather than squish down. And a medical transition should be up to a child, with a trusted adults support. Once you’re in the 14-17 phase, you can make these choices. Younger even, but 14-17 is where I see children being able to best think about their body. Also, what you described isn’t “beauty” it’s stereotypical beauty portrayed by the media as perfection.
this article is poorly written, manipulative anti-trans propaganda. This is the thinking that leads to children being murdered and killing themselves because their environment, society, and families will not let them be who they are. The author and everyone who shares their opinion should be ashamed of themselves and read and actually get educated on the topic instead of reading this obvious misinformation. It truly depresses me that people not only think this is okay, everyone responsible for this piece of shit word vomit should be ashamed, and everyone who agrees with it should be truly ashamed of themselves for believing an ideology that puts transgender childrens lives in danger.
it IS propaganda. watch them choke when you ask them to site 1 real study.
The word is “cite”, Jeffrey, not “site”. If you’re going to pretend to be the parent-substitute “adult” authority figure to the mentally ill children that you’re gathering into your cult, you really need to be able to spell the incantatory words you use to cast your spells of psycho-emotional hypno-seduction on les enfants terribles of Hamelin.
also see proto-trans 1960s anti-superstar Zezozose Zadfrack Glutz’s imaginary masterpiece: ‘Charles Manson: Techniques of Mind Manipulation of Emotionally Disturbed Children of the Lumpen Bourgeoisie’, excellent source material for your “work”
Nobody is being murdered… well, except for victims of hysterical trans people like Audrey Hale (the school shooter who MURDERED 3 kids and 3 teachers). You have it exactly backwards.
Suicide rates are HIGHER for those who transition than those who do not…. transition does not help or make things better. Most trans kids have Aspergers or other mental health conditions. Many are actually gay or lesbian.
WE ARE THE EDUCATED ONES… You are the victim of religious propaganda, and a movement that is now a religious cult… that brooks no debate or discussion, just screams at other people and threatens them.
YOU are putting children in danger, by enabling them to destroy their perfect beautiful young bodies!
We do not enable destruction. We enable good mental health, and I personally attempt to push safe binding
Trans people, particularly black trans-women, are more likely to be murdered per capita than anyone else in the nation.
320 last year and for a group that is less than 1.5 percent of the human population
Some of the people in these comments are despicable and not ready to accept that research is on the side of the trans community. 🏳️⚧️ We won’t let your bigotry stop us from being who we are. Find a way to fill that hole in your shriveled, dead heart.
100%. Medium was correct on censoring this person opinion. Also, you might try to actually know what a pre frontal cortex e tails as it has nothing to do with sense of self, which is where gender identity comes into play. Kids know around 4. Trans adults were once trans kids. This is the same propaganda they used against gays and lesbians. It’s tired, harmful, and incorrect.
There’s a book by a Christian author called, “Where Does a mother go to Resign”. This is the same Christian comedian that wrote “Stick a Geranium in your Hat and be Happy!” She shares how her
son’s issues completely broke her heart and how her Christian family managed this bombshell. I am a licensed mental health counselor working on a crisis response team. I am called into a school when a child is cutting themselves or threatens suicide. Most of them have gender issues. The determining factor for emotional stability is parental acceptance. Even if it is a phase, open yourself to the possibility of temporarily affirming or at least not fighting against your child’s preferences for appearance and name. It is not nearly as much trouble as planning a funeral.
So your arguments are so weak and you are so incapable of hearing other opinions…. you now endorse CENSORSHIP?
What a special little snowflake you are.
Sorry, but you must not have kids if you think that a 4 year old has a sense of self that is so strong…. adults must enable them and kowtow to their wishes. My kids wanted to be dinosaurs.
There are no trans kids. That would be like a vegan cat…. we all know who is pushing the idea onto the victim.
If a little girl can dress in a dinosaur onesie and act like a dinosaur to be happy and smile, why can’t a boy of any age wear feminine clothing to do the same?
i am proof there is i knew at 5 i was different but at that time there wasnt name for it .my feelings never changed .im 60 now and living my best life a woman .and have been for may years it would have been easier if there had been hormone blockers .becuse was not ive had to have many surgery’s to be passable. im glad my patents listened to me they know before i realized what was wrong .by the way most trans woman are lesbians so it has nothing to do with sexual choice of partners .
Actually that is not true…. only biased or incomplete research affirms what you say.
REAL SCIENCE says that gender and sex are the same, and immutable (fixed in utero) and that all you folks are doing are horribly mutilating people and filling them with toxic drugs.
Can you cite this source please? And do a quick credibility check? Also, why’d you post twice? Trying to fill the comments with your view hoping it will look like a majority?
You cant just describe in detail how you gaslit, controlled and manipulated your own daughter and say “see, this PROVES it was just a phase”.
The main reason kids dont show signs of gender nonconformity is because of how YOU would react if they did, as is the reason they desist. Which you have proven.
You are a manipulator. If you truly believed your kid was not trans, you should have no fear in accepting the possibility.
Look up the definition of gaslighting; you clearly do not know what it means.
So YOU know this strangers child better than she … the mother…. know t heir child?
Kids are showing gender non conformity all the heck over the place today…. clearly unafraid of parents…. driven by peers, social contagion and social media like Chinese TikTok.
Stop bullying parents. A mother knows better than you do.
No, this child knows better than their mother, or anyone else for that matter, who or what they are.
Transitioning was the worst decision my twelve year old self has made and now the rest of my life experiences its consequences in everything I do. Worst thing is ALL of my female friends from middle school have ended up transitioning. None of them ended up like me because I actually went through social transition, I enabled myself, for them it’s simply changing pronouns and convincing others to lie to them everyday. We experienced the same pattern that always arises but no one is allowed to point out: insecure (teen) girls in the same groups with the same personalities all become LGBT obsessive. I’m still living as Trans because detransitioning is so much harder than transitioning. Detransitioning is for grown ups capable of thinking logically and emotionally, transitioning is for teens only acting out on emotion. Don’t get me wrong, I know a lot of people who are genuinely trans..transitioning… they became a minority in their own group, I watched them die out from my hands. I wish we could coexist but the community doesn’t accept any criticism, either you let everyone transition or you’re transphobic. Don’t get me started on how they cover up fetishism, a real issue with real people struggling, but again they have to have everyone transition so let’s pretend there’s not a single issue! I remember a time where trans people could actually criticize themselves but that went down with the dysphoric people.
Thank you for speaking out and I’m sorry you’ve experienced what you have.
It’s really ridiculous how any questioning at all is considered transphobic. I think the more defensive people get when being questioned, the more uncertain they actually are. And there’s always that threat of suicide – believe every young person knows exactly who they are (often only after being introduced to the concept) or they may die. It’s really out of control.
It is considered transphobic because it is, that is just a fact. Sorry.
“So intertwined are transgenderism and pornography that the man responsible for coining the term ‘gender identity’, John Money, argued that young children should be shown explicit pornography in order to assist them in their ‘transition’…
Supposed indicators that a man, or teen boy, has a transgender identity include: watching trans porn, being jealous of women, or masturbating while wearing women’s clothing…
Arnold ‘Virginia Prince’ Lowman, the man who popularised the term ‘transgender’, publicised the practice of male erotic crossdressing through his magazine, ‘Transvestia’ [in 1985]. ‘You have to grow past the stage of being an erotically aroused male in a dress, which results eventually in an orgasm… [Y]ou simply become a man who comes to recognise that, gee, there’s something nice about girlness that I’m enjoying experiencing.’”
from “How Pornography Forged The Trans Movement” by Genevieve Gluck, Aug 2023 spiked-online.com
@Lupe: No, it is NOT and stop using these corny Trans Agenda terms to BULLY OTHERS into kowtowing to your RELIGIOUS CULT and ideology.
We will not. We will bow down to you. We do not accept your words or your definitions. And dont call us CIS.
But you are cis. That’s what I don’t get, how do you not understand? Cisgender straight people get so angry if they don’t get recognized as a thing, then turn around and get angry for getting recognized? Cisgender: adjective
denoting or relating to a person whose gender identity corresponds with the sex registered for them at birth; not transgender.
Do you not fall into that category?
I had no access to social media as a kid, and went to a private religious academy. Still knew I didn’t feel right as my birth gender as early as kindergarten, and was miserable and disassosciating until coming to terms with and accepting that. So it’s not as though I had no desire to transition prior to learning about trans people, just hadn’t realized it was an option beyond wishing and praying.
Trans people have existed long before the internet, although medical advancements have obviously made it easier to live openly and physically transition. The first trans person underwent transition in 1952.
1952 is only 71 years ago… a nanosecond in human culture.
And it was incredibly rare back then. Now it is 40% of the kids in some liberal blue parts of the country. That is not normal and it is clearly a social contagion, driven by TikTok and other social media.
Are a tiny number of people trans? absolutely yes. And yes, they were trans before social media and the internet.
But not 40% of schoolchildren. Come on.
SEGM Society for Evidence-based Medicine
“We are an international group of over 100 clinicians and researchers concerned about the lack of quality evidence for the use of hormonal and surgical interventions as first-line treatment for young people with gender dysphoria. We represent expertise from a range of clinical disciplines.
Our objectives include evaluating current interventions for gender dysphoria, providing balanced evidence summaries, promoting the development of effective and supportive psychosocial approaches for the care of young people with gender dysphoria and generating good, answerable questions for research.”
https://segm.org/about_us
Good luck to anyone with bone fide reasons to feel put down, as we are all going to need it once the mask on the police state finally comes off. Tbh for those who have clearly subcontracted their sense of psychosocial perspective out can tell it all to the miltary police one day, whose rifle butt blow to old gender fluid heads & cis ones alike, might validate the way humans just became tools – cattle.
Out there is an interesting LGBTQA academic. Claiming to be a former elite sports star ( no a prob there – the ivy league can fix it so their sprogs get everything to astronaut status ) With a fishy story about an injury that would not heal until ten cells were used ( moaning about the expense fairly suspiciously ) and then a miraculous transformation of the sport stars personal business as the stem cell trades leading trade directory on sourcing inventories of stem cells and cord blood etc. Incredible – all rolled into one is a lgbtqa science advice location where you can find out where to get hold of stem cells. Nope are is no reason why there should not be coincidence as such. It just seems strange that such high powered hub facilities manifested overnight like magic just because of a stem cell treatment.
Have a look at the industrial expressions of interest / corporate logo’s. Read about the donors, consider the $$$$$ involved & what the supply chain can consist of. Stem cells do not seem to grow via synthesis thus actual human products are required – preferably from the unborn and infant.
Who can afford this & what are the range of applications, does it include cosmetic reasons ? Dead people seem to be not the highest quality source but pretty good unless the are the ultimate i.e the unborn baby and even umbilical cord & related fluids. This is an industry that scoffs at empathy towards the living experiencing human unless they are the elite humans in receipt of these life giving forces.
Thus it suits this industry is advantaged by a impugned sense social conscience concerning biological realty, bits of people & people who will pay large sums for bits of people is what this industry needs, its interested in all human scrap & the feelingless society that promotes a sense of a self disfranchisement and expectations of biological disintegration among the people. LGBTQA and a mass being manipulated to assist with this erosion is not even required for a single persons happiness, in fact its buying into revenge on others who had nothing to do with anyones predicament with gender.
Best guess for reason for MRNA based jabs ? – the promotion of richer bone marrow for harvest in the future, this industry cannot meet the demand to the sums of trillions.
James was former alms as bad. In a podcast workshop recently he remarked on how feminists were shocked at the genie that came out a box( gender argument context). New Atheism was always a completely pointless merry go round of personal hubris, and it eroded humanity’s perspective in a similar fashion. The is always going to be a tough paradox when seeking to degrade the human body. I’m not saying that a God is evident & was ever about to prevent misanthropy – none ever did. But humanity just hasn’t got the power to prevent laws of consequences just by applying logic when the motivational force for that logic is really business & commerce. Similarly LGBTQA et al has nothing to gain by being taken in by an establishment using the issues as an excuse to lower out human standards of personal responsibility, just so that fiendish and disgusting practices like hating peoples cells to sell to the rich can seem ethical.
Its all going to get messed up with an organ donation sense of persona/ humane responsibility. Yet no ordinary person knows if organs are whisked away to be flogged off to the rich who can financially jump the queue. We ned to ask ourselves are the worlds most powerful and rich trustworthy enough to be ethical when so much money can be harvested from human parts. Indubitably it is also the most powerful who created the superfluous psychosocial contents of LGBTQA which encourage people to disregard biological factors. Yes there is supporting ‘ empirical science’ out there for the decoupling of the relevant biological factors & claiming MRI evidence so on. Its lamentable fake science, off research grants from shady sources that will be discredited as results to order science.
The probability is that in a police state certain people will be a laughing stock and will be targeted for extra pernicious treatment. The state will have cancelled everything it dealt under the table concerning the ways it manipulated people to help them degrade the status of humankind having disowned all decoupled logic and blamed it on the groups themselves.
Theres bandits cutting babies out of women – think about it.
Thats YOU.
** Given that the technologies emergent from clinical research puts stem cells way above the price of diamond ounce for ounce, it has become harder to envisage an undertaker to leaving things alone. If pfizer’s MRNA manipulation technology helped immune system efficiency good thats good. And one can reasonably assume many are a richer harvest by now.
The film ‘knock at any door; comes to mind here with its phase ”live fast die young & leave a good looking corpse” is very ‘Woke upper class” in attitude, and the younger someone is, the more valuable the stem cell harvest. It isn’t going to be ‘cool’ expect people to take a step back & think about the ethics in that top young woke strata of society is it ? – put a downer on this exciting new technology with is free body parts & huge growth potentials ?. Does this man that the upper class wokes going into this big industry are hoping for quality young lower class wokes to live fast and die young ? it does rather smack of it, but how could they be so cruel?.
Well Money – they cannot even stay away from the pursuit of bits of people & everyone is supposed to believe they are sincere concerning critical theories linked to peoples Emotions ?
Another thing we cannot deny is the existence emerging peddlers of this trade & the way the one claiming to be top dog is LBGTQA. Just coincidence ? – or does the disregard for humankind biological nature tie in perfectly ?
Meaningless non binary bits or Meaningful binary bits.
Which of those attitudes carelessly supports the idea of a non democratised for profit private industry in human body parts & fluids mostly interested in the unborn ?
”The gender i was assigned at birth” <<< blaming parents at lest level. And just by one of those most odd of coincidences, there is a massive pro abortion row. Not judging that either way unless someone thinking of a stem cell battery farming operation are they ? You see before stem cell tech nobody was interested in the proletariat just for there body part harvesting potentials After ? well some movement ad to going around begging & imploring for the masses to disregard Biology!
Little Woke ? – if you ever have the misfortune to meet big powerful elite young woke you ain't gonna need no body to be wittering on about!. You want empathy over gender after hearing the propaganda ? The maker of the woke criticality just what to break you for spares one day and thinking asap !
This person sounds like they have a shirt made by their friend that says “Trump Girl.”
Can you explain why you feel the person sounds like that ?
So you think it is alright for someone to mutilate a child before their prefrontal cortex is developed enough to know what they my actually want for the rest of their life? If I had a surgery for every phase I went through in my adolescent years ud be a walking Picasso. The writer of this is just expressing not to jump the gun with surgery and hormones until the child’s mind is surely settled. Then again I suppose there are some perverted people in the world that think mutilation of a child’s private parts is alright, even though it is irreversible. Well if not being a perverted person makes me a “Trump girl” get me a shirt.
What about people who didn’t vote at all, are not religious, and still agree with this article? What sort of brilliant insult do you have for them?
The author makes it very clear she is a left leaning liberal Democrat and Biden voters.
It’s 2022 and this article is still pushing the routinely debunked “85% of children with gender dysphoria desist” myth.
I realize this is a Christian website, and you guys like believing anti scientific nonsense, but this is really irreponsible. The latest studies and DSM classifications utterly debunk this.
“DIE CIS SCUM!!!”
“KILL TERFS DEAD!!!”
Death threats, assaults on women and championing MAPs (“minor attracted” paedophiles). You’ve really got the moral high ground there, Swampy.
Child Trans is a Manufactured Lie!
Trans Inc. is a Weapon of the Ruling Class!
“Transgender” is the Opium of the New Bourgeois Aristocracy!
REALITY IS FREEDOM!
from a former (’80s/’90s) gay activist, anti-T-hegemony realist and non-Christian
You know that “Minor Attracted Pedophiles” aren’t even supported at all by the LGBTQ community? People just like to think it is supported and fearmonger about it.
Thank for saying this!
I have known two people who outgrew gender dysphoria. One was a young girl who loved her older brothers and was always following them around. She eventually grew out of it and is now married to a man and had 3 kids. The other was an adolescent who had eating disorders and insisted people call her Jeff rather than Jennifer. She got help for her ED and eventually stopped trying to get people to call her Jeff. She is now married with 2 adult children and grandchildren. So yes, people do outgrow gender dysphoria.
Not a Christian. Didn’t vote. Still agree.
Fuck off nark, as a lesbian parent of 4 kids at 31, I think parents need to be supportive of their kids. My oldest is non-binary, my second oldest is lesbian okay that’s fine with me. You really need to think before you speak.
So you would allow a minor child to make life-altering decisions for themselves? Glad you didn’t raise me. Fool.
What are the odds that 2/4 of your kids would have something wrong with them? I’m curious if this is leaned behavior due to having a lesbian as a mother, I know many people who have3-4 kids and none identify as any of this. You’re easily influenced by your environment and id be curious at how many kids grow up confused due to parents identifying as gay or lesbian or trans.
Didn’t affect me, I didn’t know until years after I started experimenting with how I felt.
WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND THAT NOT EVERYBODY IS THE SAME??? SOME PEOPLE FEEL THAT THEY DON’T BELONG IN THE SEX THEY WERE BORN SO THEY CHANGE THEIR SEX AND IT IS VALID, AND OTHERS ARE CONFUSED AND THINK THEY BELONG IN THE OTHER SEX, ONLY TO FIND OUT LATER THAT IT WAS A PHASE, AND IT IS VALID!.
WHY ON EARTH IT IS WRONG, BAD OR EVIL TO REALIZE ONE WENT OVER A PHASE???? TO CONDEMN THIS IS AS EVIL AS CONDEMNING TRANSITIONING.
I have a question for you. Did you know at age 15 you were a girl? Did you know you liked boys? If the answer is yes, then you understand that cisgender and heterosexual kids can know who they are any age they want. It is only when it comes to trans or gay kids that they are “too young to know”.
If you told your parents you had a crush on a boy, did they tell you “Oh no, you can’t know for sure”? If you asked for a dress, did they say you weren’t allowed because you didn’t know who you were? That’s because being cis and straight is considered normal. It’s the default. It’s like how in books they never describe a white character’s skin color, but they do describe a POC’s skin color. It’s because being white is the default; it’s assumed. So you “son” thinking he is trans should be accepted as much as him saying he was going on a date with a girl.
As a trans teenager, I want to say that your child has probably been thinking about this for a very long time. He probably didn’t feel comfortable talking to you because he knew your views. There’s a reason that 42% of LGBTQ youth have seriously considered suicide, and it isn’t because they are struggling in school or they are sad they are queer. It is because they are not in a home that will love and accept them. It has been proven that gender-affirming medical care is life saving. Trans people have been backed up by science for years. Your child isn’t going to start puberty blockers, get hormones and surgery in the span of a week, these things take time. They actually can’t start anything without being properly assessed by a trained medical professional. I think you need to do some research and really understand the information you are putting out there. That study you showed was held by already transphobic people, and many of the people they surveyed likely “changed their minds” about being trans because it was too hard to live that way so they pushed their feelings down.
Take it from a trans teen whose parents struggled at first, but learned and were there for me when it mattered, When it got too hard and I wished to die every night, I needed my parents. I needed support, I needed help. And it made all the difference when my parents understood I wasn’t faking, that what I was saying was backed up by my therapist and by science. Being there for your child when they need it most, even if you don’t completely understand, makes all the difference. For me, it was the difference between life and death. Listen to you child, get him a therapist, doctors appointments, do your own research (there are lots of resources for parents of trans teens!) and I know your child will be so grateful.
. No, this industry is not careful with your lives. You should ask why the people who are careful with your lives are pushed out like those who believe in watch and wait. Why is something that would need puberty blockers surgery and cosmetic surgery suppose to be such a common thing that every impressional child and teen needs to hear about it.
Not all trans people have to get surgery some trans people are already okay in their bodies.
I agree with this 100%, and coming from an FTM whose parents don’t accept them, well I can say that not having your parents to support you and say that they love you no matter what hurts more than you will ever know. If your “son” comes out and says that SHE is trans, then you should accept it like that. Not think about if it’s “just the trend” or if it’s “just a phase”. No. If SHE decided to tell you then SHE would’ve been thinking about it a lot.
I’m just saying, you should trust your kid, and support them no matter what and no matter what you may think or were taught. Because trust me when I say, when a parent says to you in your face, “It’s just a phase,” Or, “It’s just the world today, it’s not you,” Or, this one is my favorite, “It’s just the trend going on. It’s not real.” It will not make your kid listen to you more.
Hope this makes you see a lot more.
Sincerely, Your Neighborhood FTM <3
So what you’re saying is that there is no possibility whatsoever that the child is confused? If an 11 year old girl asks you that they want surgery and transition I should go ahead? Just asking, not contradicting you.
I think they’re saying that it’s best not to say no, and to instead offer waiting and finding things to help change how you look so you can think a little longer and do research. Trans male here, I almost jumped to surgery immediately, my parents offered binding, hormones (still haven’t gotten to those, we’re so bad at remembering to do things lol-) and baggier clothing. So far I feel great, and I’m glad I didn’t move straight to a surgery. Not saying I even think of transitioning back, but it’s best to leave that open until you’re sure!
Since you are still a teen, I won’t say to you what I would say to an adult who was pushing the nonsense that you are, but I will say that you have been manipulated by people with an agenda that doesn’t have your best interest at heart.
When you have regrets about your “transition”, and you will, I assure you, remember who was trying to get you the help you need, and who was encouraging you to permanently mutilate your body for the sake of a political agenda.
Between 1-3% of transgender youth who transition do come to detransition. Although a large number of detransitioners still consider themselves trans, just not part of the gender binary.
Gender affirming care helps the overwhelming majority of trans people. Not that we should ignore detransitioners entirely, but why prioritize making care more difficult to protect the few at the expense of the many helped by gender affirming care?
Personally, I was trans as a child and teen raised in a conservative Christian household with no media access, while attending a private academy. Still trans at 27, and much happier since transitioning.
The fifteen year old I know who is on hormone blockers and hrt is one of the brightest and happiest kids I know, and I just wish I’d had the freedom to be myself from an early age as they have had.
Why are people so caught up on the false narrative of transition regret, when recent studies have proved regret is minimal. Again, around 1-3% regret rate. Comparatively, a knee replacement surgery has a regret rate around 30%. Statistically you would help more people by complaining about knee surgeries.
I have a question, and I’m not asking to sound rude or like I’m just uninformed on the topic. I personally have not gone through any of this – I mean literally me, I’m a heterosexual mom of 3. I have never thought of myself as a closed mind person. I am always open to being educated. I do know people who truly don’t feel like they are the gender that was assigned to them at birth. My nephew who I’ve known since the day he was born I can still remember him as a toddler and everyone who knew him knew that he would be gay, he’s now in his mid 20’s nothing has changed and he is definitely gay.
My concern/question is this – my 9 year old daughter has never mentioned anything to me or anyone in the family about feeling different. She likes video games so she will say boys are cooler because they are always the cooler character and she recently cut her hair herself to have it short but today we saw her pediatric specialist, she has diagnoses of ADHD, depression, and anxiety and out of nowhere the dr started asking her about her gender identity. I could tell my daughter was confused as she is only 9 plus the adhd affects her so that developmentally her brain development is similar to a 6 year old. Do you think this is appropriate to just discuss with a patient??
getting therapy while your younger could help with gender affirming, to actually see if your child is transgender or not. try to speak to her about what gender identity is to help her understand her dr better and what hes trying to ask her.
I think it’s good to start speaking to your child about their options when you feel best, personally, at age 9-10, I was given piles of books on puberty, which included sexuality and gender in their. If you’d like, I can offer some book suggestions!
Also, forgot this in my last comment, but neurodivergence is shown to have a connection to gender and sexuality, so that might be part of it!
https://www.theswaddle.com/why-theres-more-gender-and-sexuality-diversity-in-the-neurodivergent-community
https://www.kqed.org/news/11937857/significant-overlap-researchers-work-to-understand-connection-between-autism-and-gender-fluidity#:~:text=Eventually%20neuroscience%20could%20help%20explain,understand%20the%20roots%20of%20it.
https://psychcentral.com/adhd/people-with-adhd-more-likely-to-question-gender-identity?scrlybrkr=cd93fe16#how-to-offer-support
I started transitioning at the age of 15 after enduring years of sexual abuse in my home and having been forcibly raped, stalked, and then coerced into dating by my 28-year-old neighbor who would not take no for an answer and of course my already sexually abusive dysfunctional family didn’t protect me from him any more than my mom protected me from my dad. Being a dumb teenager, I didn’t connect my sexual victimization to my hatred of being a girl. I’d always been a tomboy anyway so when I learned I could transition to leave my body image issues and discomfort with my sex behind it all made so much sense to me. I first thought I might be trans at 14 after reading about it on social media.
A “friend” provided me with testosterone cream for the first few years and then when I turned 18 I started on T injections. I got top surgery not long after that. All of this (except the testosterone cream which I was encouraged to apply to my genital area to maximize “growth”, which I paid for with money from my part time job) was paid for by the government.
The “gender therapist” I had to see before my insurance would approve anything never once suggested that maybe something else might be causing my feelings: not my eating disorder, not my long history of being sexually abused, not the fact that I’d grown up with an sexist, abusive, alcoholic rapist for a dad or a weak-willed enabler for a mother. At one point during one of the sessions (I think it took 2 or 3 visits in total for her to okay my life-altering hormone replacement therapy and double mastectomy) I told my gender therapist that I was afraid I would regret it if I jumped into surgery too quickly but that I also wanted to get it as soon as possible because I wanted men to stop looking at me. I told her that I had doubts about injected T because it would have real results (the product I’d been buying hadn’t done much so it’s questionable whether I was even getting the real deal or what it was mixed with) but I didn’t know if the results would go far enough and I thought I might find it easier in the long run to live as an attractive but miserable woman than an ugly half-way man.
She dismissed all of my concerns. She said doubts were normal and no one who isn’t trans thinks about the possibility that they might be trans. She okayed my surgery and HRT. I got both of those things within three weeks of turning 18, thinking that by going to a therapist and “researching” transness for so many years online I had done my due diligence.
I moved in with another trans friend after that but my hatred of my body never went away. I felt like I was accomplishing something when I ‘passed’ as male, but it was a hollow and brief pleasure and at all other times I was crippled by ‘dysphoria’, the sense that I wasn’t passing well enough, envy for cisgender male bodies, and shame about my female past.
Something happened around the time I turned 21. Suddenly, I was able to see that everything I’d done to my body was a mistake. First, I found myself envying beautiful girls. Then, I found myself dreading my weekly testosterone injection. And then I experimented with going off T. I found that my health improved, I immediately I lost the weight I’d gained on T, and I was less impulsive and suicidal. Then, panic set in. My doubts were not just doubts anymore but certainty that I’d messed up. I had been told that detransition was a transphobic myth. When I searched online I found a small community on Tumblr (where I’d learned about transness and had been convinced that my normal feelings were dysphoria in the first place). From there, I was connected to a private detrans group on Facebook and then Reddit. There I found many stories that were similar to mine.
I also found that the online trans community persistently perpetuated the myth that people like me did not exist. I was accused of being a TERF pretending to be trans, blamed for making it harder for trans people to access treatment by merely speaking about my experience on Reddit (I didn’t even vote in elections back then and didn’t tell my former doctors I was detransitioning so I wonder how I was supposed to have been making things harder for trans people). The online trans community said that I deserved my suffering and it was my fault for being stupid–this was the same community that had encouraged me to disregard my doubts about transitioning and had told me (just as my gender therapist had) that detransition didn’t exist. Then, people started trying to dox me and I deleted my Reddit. I never once said anything transphobic on Reddit–I simply shared my experiences of detransitioning. I never blamed the trans community for what happened to me, but simply existing as a detransitioner is too much. I was told that detrans people need to shut up and deal with the consequences of their own actions because it’s our fault we’re in this state and speaking simply speaking is doing violence to trans people.
Yes, I’ll admit that I made rash decisions and I take complete ownership of the fact that I was the one who injected myself in the thigh with testosterone (my insurance only provided IM and no subcue T). I was the one so certain of my transness that I overcame my fear of needles to insert a very long one into my leg regularly. But, the horrible advice I got from the online trans community and my gender therapist didn’t help either.
Again, at 14 or 15 I was told by various sources (the online trans community, my then-trans teen friends who have since grown up and detransitioned, my gender therapist):
1) Detransition is a transphobic myth. The only people who go off hormones after starting do so only temporarily because of money or because they’re living in a transphobic environment and need to stop until they’re in a safer place. Nobody ever regrets transitioning.
2) Everyone who thinks they might be trans is trans.
3) Not wanting to be a girl, hating your body, hating penetrative sex, not wanting to be submissive in bed, being terrified by the idea of ever going through pregnancy and childbirth, liking masculine things (climbing trees with my brothers) while disliking traditionally feminine things (cooking and shopping), and being a tomboy is gender dysphoria.
4) That it never gets better. Because I was trans, my only option was to either transition or end up committing suicide. There was no chance of things getting better. That because I was trans (and remember, anyone who even thought about the possibility of being trans was supposed to be trans) I would always hate my body unless I changed it and would never be happy unless I transitioned. Testosterone could cure my depression and what I now know was PTSD and nothing else could.
5) Anyone who doubted my transition was transphobic and would rather I commit suicide as a girl than live as a happy boy. Anyone who misgendered me was doing LITERAL violence and thought I was subhuman.
6) That I would definitely be at risk of getting beaten up and/or murdered by transphobes because society was so violently transphobic, but that the alternative was trying to live a lie as a girl and killing myself. (I lived in a Portland suburb and this was in the early 2010s so all of my fear was unrealistic.)
7) That if my parents wouldn’t let me transition, it was okay to threaten suicide (“would you rather have a dead daughter or a trans son?”) and that if my parents didn’t totally affirm my gender then that was tantamount to abuse and meant they were transphobic. My parents were in fact abusive, but they didn’t really care that much when I changed my gender because they never really cared much about me or what the consequences might be. It was all fine as long as I did it on my own time and they didn’t have to drive me anywhere (they never let me use their cars).
8) That if I didn’t want kids and didn’t care about the possibility of becoming infertile at 14 or 15 or even 18, then I wouldn’t care about it in the future.
9) Trans people have always existed in such high numbers (when I came out, I was one of three female-to-male trans identifiers in my year at a relatively small school) and the only reason we were suddenly seeing so many was because of more widespread education on LGBT issues.
10) That if I waited until I was older to transition the testosterone wouldn’t be as effective at changing my body (which turned out to be completely false and I don’t know where this myth comes from).
I believed all of those lies. And beyond that, being part of the trans community made me feel supported and like someone cared about my pain for the first time in my life.
I’m not allowed to speak about my experiences now that I’ve detransitioned. My pain is now suddenly invalid and my mere existence is damaging and transphobic. I’m not only to blame for everything that happened to me, but also should have all of my experiences questioned and should be assumed to be lying or wrong about being detrans. They think I’m either in denial or that I just transitioned because it was trendy because they think teen girls will do anything for attention.
I feel like the online trans community is going to end up killing people if they don’t accept discussion of detransition or allow for nuance. Not everyone who looks dysphoric is trans. Transition hurts some people. My pain didn’t become less valid the day I stopped injecting myself with testosterone.
May these two beautiful symbolic short videos evoke old long suppressed memories that explain why so many of us have not been happy with our human bodies:
“A Gathering of the Tribe | POWERFUL Short Film by Charles Eisenstein w/ Jon Hopkins & Aubrey Marcus”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XinVOpdcbVc
“ET 101”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ut3Jn-cANMk
So sorry you’ve had such a terrible time! I’m just deeply grieved at the horrible experiences you’ve had. And the way you’ve been treated, I’m sure is deeply painful. I hope that things get better for you. The good thing is that you’re still young and have a long life of opportunity ahead of you. While you’ll never forget the trauma of the past, you can look forward to the future. Your past will always be a part of you, but your future is not yet written and is entirely in your hands. Don’t let your past control you. Many prayers and God Bless!
this is a real experience for you, and the trans community respects that detransitioners exist. We just also know that less than 4% of people that transition are unhappy/detransition. We only want cases like yours to stop being used against us. This was your situation, you story. It is extremely rare to just get testosterone cream from a friend, so I suspect it either wasn’t real or you were just in a bad situation. I am sorry everything that happened to you happened, and I completely understand and validate your experience. It just doesn’t take away from the 96% of trans people that notice significant improvement after medical transition, and are completely happy with their decision.
“and the trans community respects that detransitioners exist.”
They do not. Not from anything I’ve seen or experienced.
“so I suspect it either wasn’t real””I completely understand and validate your experience.”
Your two-facedness is showing.
Unfortunately, it appears you’ve been interacted with the worst of the community on de-transitioning. I’m sorry that that has been how you formed your opinion. Those who recognize the issue are working to fix it. 🙂
She just told you about the horrible care and the psychotic counsel that is the standard for medical care. Be there is not a single person in your movement addressing this.
“She said doubts were normal and no one who isn’t trans thinks about the possibility that they might be trans.”
That absolutely set me off. What a horrible, evil therapist you had. That’s the exact opposite of what we know about homosexuality; that it’s completely normal for everyone to consider it and it doesn’t mean anything by itself. I’m so sorry you were sucked into a cult and lied to. I do empathize with the feeling of a microculture that has nothing but love for you so long as you agree with them, and treats you like Hitler as soon as you don’t.
Thank-you for telling your story. Knowing the truth will help others.
I am so touched by your story and also so deeply sorry that you have been so isolated through the worst kind of traumas. You are also very brave to speak it in light of the rejection you have suffered.
We all need a sense of belonging in this world and you have been dealt a cruel and unfair hand.
But I also want to thank you. Your story is so important. I am just a mother of teens who has fallen across this page trying to understand the current culture that is moving so fast. I’m old enough to know that every story is different and of equal value and I see a dangerous and aggressive single-track propoganda machine that is taking young minds into a place without debate or nuance. Thank you so much for explaining the other side.
I truly wish you well and hope you find the kindest of people who listen to understand, that your story is very valid, that you are worthy and that you don’t have to fit in anybody’s rule book. You are unique x
I am so sorry for what you went through and are still going through. I hope you have been able to find a measure of peace for yourself.
I am very concerned about my 18 year old, witching the last year she started dressing like a guy and cut her hair, before that there was nothing even resembling male behavior. She is extremely sensitive and if she decides to transition (she is on the fence) and regrets it going through all of the current hate out there for detransitioners scares me. I don’t know if she would survive that. For now she is not overly depressed, she does have anxiety but has had that her entire life, is not suicidal nor has had any thought of self harm. Her entire friend group is LGBTQIA however so it also scares me that there is some social component. Aside from all of that, will the dysphoria get worse and cause her to have those feelings? I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. Hopefully we can get through it together.
Anyhow, I digress. I wish you a very hopeful and happy life, I hope you will be able to find it.
she may have hid it if she didnt feel like the enviorment she was in would accept her but it could also be something else try to get her a well known doctor to help her understand herself.
Hey, just thought I’d throw it out there that no matter what happens, you need to support them in their choice. That they trusts you enough to tell you is great! You should be happy in that, and stick by their side no matter what they choose. I, as a trans person, am working to break down the hate of de-transitioning from the inside. Stay strong, search for unbiased sources to learn what you feel you need to know, talk to the communities.
I cant believe the audacity of that therapist, that is not how life works. Always question everything. If you have doubts, don’t go into surgery. Look into options that allow you to comfortably detransition whenever. I’m so sorry, that makes me livid. I wish you luck in finding yourself and a comfortable and easy detransitioning. You should look into finding that therapist again and figuring out if you could get their license revoked for that.
Hi I just thought I would add a vote of confidence in your story and this is coming a transwoman myself. I transitioned about 30 years ago and in all of those years I don’t have any doubts or regrets about my decision. My own ‘gender non-conforming’ started as soon as I hit kindergarten. That insistence or persistence of being the wrong gender never changed. Likewise in my travels I know a few people who transitioned as teens even back then. But here’s the thing. Kids who did this back then they didn’t just go “I think I’m trans one day out of the blue” no it was extremely obvious they (parents) had a kid who insisted they were of the wrong gender just like it was for me. It was obvious from the moment that child could talk and insisted they were the wrong gender. So the condition is real it’s just massively over reported. I think this population of people like myself and others like me is very very small. A tiny tiny fraction of humanity and why not? It’s not like I serve a biological purpose any more because I’m an evolutionary dead end.
What has happened is that over the years transgender activists have been pushing this constant enlarging of the umbrella so that ‘everyone is now trans they just don’t know it yet’ which is completely nonsense. There has also been a push to weaken what is known as the standards of care for transgender people. When I transitioned the SOC was a couple of pages long, now it’s a book. What happened between now and then? Have human beings evolved into something else? Or is someone just padding the numbers for clinical dollars?
Don’t get me wrong I am not for outright banning of treatment for trans kids, I am just pointing out that it is extremely rare and should be extremely rare and not treating someone is not good for society and the health of the young kid who will really benefit from it. I think going back to the old standards would be a great step in the right direction instead of free and unfettered access to hormones and surgery that activists demand today. A little oversight is a good thing. It all worked out for me and I knew in the end I didn’t make a mistake because I had a little birdie on my shoulder talking to me to make sure I was doing the right thing. What we have now is instead of it being 1 in 100,000 kids it’s every 3rd kid is trans and I just think that’s insane and yes I also believe that it’s a phase and will pass in time. Hope that helps!
ps: True story. I disappeared from the ‘trans community’ for many years just living my life and after a while I was curious as to that was being discussed. When I came back I was like WTF are people talking about. This is nuts. So I tried talking to people, trying to reason with the trans community. But not only did they reject me, they said I wasn’t trans and get the hell out, so in 2022 I’ve been excommunicated from the trans community but that doesn’t mean I am not going to stop speaking out about the madness that is going on.
It amazes me how many people currently behave like they have never met a human being, and have no idea how humans think and feel. It amazes me how many people currently behave like they never grew up as a human being, and never went through all the turmoil late into their teens as they tried to figure out their strengths, weaknesses, motivations and desires – i.e. who they are. Maybe David Icke is right. Maybe we really are being ruled by a race of lizard people, who cannot relate to humanity. 🙂
I am a trans woman. I began transitioning at 33, and have lived socially as a woman (in the sense that I am rarely “clocked” and am simply assumed to be female) for roughly five years now. I do believe that my life would have likely been considerably improved had I begun transition about 10 years earlier. Even that would have been difficult. Imagine being told that you cannot, effectively, begin your life until age 25; until then, you can’t really start to build social networks, and you certainly can’t begin to form a meaningful romantic relationship. That is the position that trans people are in.
Don’t take me wrong, I largely agree with this article. But if your child hasn’t “grown out of it” by 18 or 19, then my guess is that they probably won’t. Remember that transition, done properly, takes a long time. There are months of therapy, followed by years of hormone replacement during/after which there is a (usually) deeply awkward period of gradual social transition. After all of that comes any surgical procedures the trans person feels are necessary, along with not-insignificant recovery times. For most people this whole thing is, realistically, a three to five year process.
While I am personally not comfortable with young children starting hormone replacement, I also believe that, by 25, a trans person will want to have all of the above-mentioned steps fully out of the way so that they can begin to really live while they are still in their twenties. Expecting someone to wait until 25 to *begin* this process is not just impractical; it’s callous.
Incidentally, most of the trans people I have known are not actually very interested in queer theory, or in settling whether they are, in some ontological sense, a “real man/woman.” They are just trying to deal with the very real, pragmatic difficulties of their situation.
P.S. Here is one tip for parents that I rarely hear mentioned in regards to trans issues- Help your child become comfortable with his/her body, in a way that is completely unrelated to the concept of being trans. Maybe your child is struggling with weight, fashion-sense, confidence, or some other aspect of self-presentation; sort that out first if you can. In my case, when I was in my late twenties I finally lost a lot of weight, started going to the gym, and learned how to dress well (as a man). I was considered fairly attractive, and had little difficulty getting dates with women. It was only after I committed to trying to live well as a man that I fully accepted the fact that I simply couldn’t. I wish someone had told me to get on with this process much earlier so that I wouldn’t have spent 10 years in a kind of genderless limbo. Don’t let your child get stuck! Moving forward, even toward the wrong goal, can be helpful.
They do not want caution. Why is that ?
Perhaps would have been better to have the title say “…is (probably) a phase”, gives a better sense of the article?
I appreciate your attempt at quelling the aggressive conversation, thank you!
I agree with the trans desistance, not the lesbian desistance. This is 90 per cent media (social media and TV) influenced; the latest and trendy, ‘question your reality and authority’ attitude which is then peer circulated.
Modern media desires to purposefully create chaos by aggrandising actual demands of oppressed people and blasting them out into their channels as a trendy, in thing.
This must be separated from the actual lives of lesbians the world over, who do not consume this kind of media.
Lesbianism is not a phase. The act and process of a woman loving another woman does not end as one finishes secondary school. Sometimes, it starts then, sometimes later, sometimes much later, 30 years and above.
There were and always have been dykes who were out, before it was made trendy by the propagandist media.
You need to get out and talk to lesbians, about their lives and journeys.
If you’re referring to the end of this article where it says: “If they are like my friends’ kids (ADHD, Asperger’s/ASD) they are probably going to desist. If they are like my other friends’ kids (gay or lesbian) they are probably going to desist.” then the author doesn’t imply lesbianism is a phase, just like ADHD or Asperger isn’t as well.
It only points to those specific teens that might feel and unclear feeling of discomfort that could lead them to think they are trans…
The author is not saying that one is probably going to desist from being LG or B.
The author is saying that the young teen who is *allowed* to go through puberty despite “thinking” they are trans but their emerging sexuality is LG or B, is likely to desist from being trans and embrace being LG or B.
Many of the young girls in particular, funnelled through the “trans” tunnel, may be on or more of autistic or other neurodiverse; had traumatic experiences; serious health issues; maybe just LG or B.
If left alone and not encouraged to “trans” but also not have a fight over it, they will just be themselves.
Trans people have always existed too. We don’t take away from lesbianism or the lesbian experience. Just because lesbian history is more well known doesn’t mean there’s more of it than trans history. We have a full, rich history that has been covered up, largely due to colonization and enforcing the European idea of gender binary.
This reaction, these feeling, are the same that trans people feel reading this article. If you can apply these emotions, and exist in others shoes, you’ll get further into these interactions, and have more in depth conversations with people affected.
Well, I can tell you at 50 that it’s a hell of a long phase for some of us.
Trans people, or if you’d prefer “People with variably masculinized and feminized brains” have always existed. We existed before we had the name “trans” to describe it. We were lumped in with homosexuals and other sexual “sinners”. We were considered mentally ill, badly-parented, psychologically disturbed, failing at our god-given roles.
I existed long before I had a name for what I was. I existed as a “tomboy”, who bargained with her mother (herself a former tomboy) to wear a dress to visit family and sit nicely before being allowed to change into shorts or jeans and go find boys (and willing girls) to tear around, play sports and games, and sometimes fight with, and who pictured herself as a man in her mind when asked what she wanted to be when she grew up.
I existed as a “genderbender” teenager who preferred jeans and boots most of the time and sometimes shaved her head, and who still played sports, and sometimes fought with boys. I flung back and forth between the feminine clothing that was fashionable (and sometimes adored), and socially rewarded, and the male clothing that was more comfortable and practical. And still stubbornly often kept picturing myself as a young man as I existed in a fairly male leftist group of friends. Bit of a Marxist, peace group, May Day parades, disarmament, Anti-Apartheid. Anti-authoritarian.
I existed briefly disillusioned with the Left , the betrayal of an adult mentor on the Left, the disintigration of my friend group. Reevaluated my attacks on the “bourgeois” attitudes of my family (which it turned out were working class attitudes anyway). Rejected intellectual Marxism as fraudulent middle-class posing and went off with the skinheads, who let me be as masculine as I pleased. Drank. Swore. Fought. Fucked.
I existed as a young feminist, raging at the world for teaching me to hate and fear my own sex and disparage it, wondering when, if ever, I would be feminist-reprogrammed enough to make the feelings of discomfort and “un-fit” with my sex go away.
I existed as a mother, outwardly conformed and trying to be religious but never fitting. Struggling always. Only feeling well, and properly female for more than a few hours at a time, when pregnant and for a few months afterward. (Psst, hormones) Had an insanely high sex drive and got tested for testosterone levels. I assumed normal when nobody called, but maybe they weren’t so normal.
I existed for 9 months in perfect happiness, with a brain that finally seemed to function, finally fit perfectly, seamlessly with the body. I embraced Judaism wholeheartedly and began to study Torah, talmud and kabbalah with Hassidim. No more depersonalization. No more anxiety. No more depression. Better than being pregnant. I felt the beauty and power of the female state, of the religious role.
I existed recovering from a head injury, with a neuro-psychologist telling me mine was the most masculine neuro-psych exam he’d ever scored. Not the most masculine for a woman. The most masculine, period. I struggled with anger from the injury, from the loss of what I’d found and then lost. I lost religion.
I existed making my way back to Judaism, broken again. Struggling again, but never quite so much as before those 9 months that changed my life. Torn between the close-knit but highly gendered Orthodox and the liberal end that permitted me aliyot. Frustrated by attacks on my chosen religious dress (it’s hard enough trying to stay consistently female without people interfering in everything I do. No, I’m not going to be single-handedly usher in a new Patriarchy and the death of Feminism because I wear long skirts, please take your hyperbole and fuck off now.) One moment picturing myself baking challah, another moment picturing myself in tallit and tefillin, studying and arguing.
I existed writhing back and forth in my mind. What am I? Why do I not feel like either sex most of the time? Why do I sometimes then FEEL female? Why do I (less often) sometimes feel completely male, hideously hyper-aware of my female body (yet not hating it as, for better or worse, it is the only body I have) and feeling as awkward in a skirt or dress as if I’d been dressed in a clown suit for a funeral. (Why must everyone else obsess about what I wear and whether it’s masculine or feminine?)
I existed studying neurology and psychiatry evenings and weekends. Trying to understand my brain. Trying to understand my other problems, seizures, migraines, Depersonalization Disorder, Alexithymia. Maybe it’s Autism…but no, autistics don’t get well for 9 months suddenly. Then there it is “neural masculinization” links to Autism, alexithymia.
I existed coming across Trans. Non-binary. Genderfluid. Those are good words. Nice little shortcuts that explain what I experience. Excellent. Links to migraine, depersonalization. Things are falling into place, making sense.
I existed learning about sex and gender. A spectrum of gender expression, just like a spectrum of height. 50 different genes control height, two of them are sex chromosomes. Sex is a binary pushing us further in one direction or the other, shorter vs taller., feminized vs masculinized. Sex is an imperfect binary, genes can have flaws limiting their expression, including on the X and Y. SRY genes migrate. Androgen receptor genes fail creating intersex DSDs. Prenatal and early hormone exposures, endogenous and exogenous. Men and women inhabit overlapping bell curves on most traits. Many people are outliers on one trait, some are outliers on clusters. Gender dysphoria shows up on imaging as an opposite sex pattern of activation in an area that is believed to govern sexual self-body schema. Gender nonconformity shows up as another opposite sexed pattern. Homosexuality shows up as an opposite sexed pattern in an area governing sexual attraction other-body schema (gay men have the pattern of heterosexual women there, and lesbians have the same pattern as men).
I existed coming across Queer Theory. Heard of that years ago, via feminism, didn’t pay it much mind then…seems to have something to do with trans stuff though, should have a look-see. What the fuck? Why is this pretty blonde teenage screaming about how awful transsexuals are? What the fuck is a Truscum? Why is everyone screaming, “Trans People are Dying!”
(Followed shortly by, Holy Fuck, why has the entire Left gone off the rails? Everyone’s screaming. Nobody’s making any sense. Wait, this isn’t the far Left exactly….these are liberals. Liberals? Pseudo-marxist talking points everywhere…but nary an actual class-based Marxist to be fou…wait there they are getting called class -reductionists by these weird liberal…. Social Justice Warriors? I just left a liberal synagogue with social justice people. This isn’t social justice…this is shrieking, anxiety-ridden authoritarian harpies. These are my controlling, abusive ex on steroids! No, the conservatives don’t want to kill us all, I was just at the Orthodox synagogue for Shabbat, five people invited me for dinner, nobody wanted to kill me or anyone. This has to go. These people are insane!)
So here I am. Still existing as a non-binary genderfluid transperson just after my 50th birthday. Some people grow out of it, some people don’t. Still also a woman. Not a body with a vagina. Not a uterus-haver. Not a cervix bearer. Woman. Adult, female, human. Not negotiable. If I wanted to transition I would move into the social and legal categories of a man (under my country’s laws) but I would remain a biological woman for life. Social roles and laws are flexible constructs, biology is immutable.
Still thinking gender is a spectrum. Still thinking sex is not. A complicated binary with multiple factors is still a binary. You can express a lot of complicated things with computers, they still boil down to the binary.
Still agreeing that sex roles are constructed and gender expression influenced by society, still steadfastly believing that they are not constructed out of thin air, but based on a mixture of the society’s current needs and the available bell curves of normal gender expressions and how far from their natural biological gender expression you can push people without paying for it dearly.
Still refusing Queer Theory, still refusing CSJ. Has some good ideas…there are such things as systemic issues in society, intersectionality is a real thing IMO…but dangerous in the hands of stupid people. See also Carlo M Cipolli’s The Laws of Human Stupidity.
“Lived Experience is real.” Nevertheless, your personal lived experience can’t be allowed to define wide swathes of people who share your characteristics. No, the lived experience of most people who share my characteristics, or whose narrative you prefer, is not allowed to erase my lived experience. Even if your self-IDing yourself into that lived narrative is correct, we must “gatekeep” so that bad actors are kept out.
Queer Theory is dangerous to children. Most tellingly it is MOST dangerous to the children most likely to be trans. Children with a solid sense of their gender because their sex and gender id match, and their gender expression is close to the mean, are unlikely to be shifted by the Queer narrative. Though now that it is being brought into daycares we’re about to find out if that still holds when you get them young.
It’s the children who are struggling with an issue who are most apt to take it up, looking for community, just as I joined peace groups and then skinheads, looking for a place to be accepted and belong despite my weirdness. That means kids who aren’t really trans jump on the bandwagon, and kids who are trans like me jump on and get surgeries even though we already know that the less “classic trans” you are, the less likely transition is to fix your problems, and the more likely you are to desist, or to regret and detransition. Lower-dose hormones help some people but that’s about it. This is also why we “gatekeep”, to keep scared, lonely and confused people away from transitioning rashly, hoping it will fix other mental health problems, which it won’t. Even classic trans people experience post-transition disappointment and even they’ll tell you that it has medical repercussions down the road even when it is the best choice overall.
Queer Theory is the exact opposite of the “It Gets Better” campaign for homosexuals. It sells them a lie that everything will get worse. That the judgement and exclusion of high school will go on forever. That they’ll become suicidal if they don’t get hormones and surgeries promptly. That everyone hates them, including their families. That people like them are constantly in danger of dying. Bullshit. My life has had some very rough patches, most of which had little or nothing to do with my identities or nonconformity, yet here I am. I’ve survived rapes, head injuries, job losses, mental illness…and you know what, nobody hates me, most people seem to like me OK, and I’m more or less happy most of the time. Your trans children need to hear that. It normally gets better… the only thing standing in the way of things getting better for them right now is Queer Theory and CSJ Wokeness itself.
I never thought that I’d be happier to have lived at a time when strangers punched you in the street for gender non-conformity but here we are…a world where well-intentioned people fall over themselves to help trans and pseudo-trans kids mutilate ourselves, and where I get fired from my job for questioning the wisdom putting Queer Theory in daycares. Yeah, a daycare that had a trans staff member now doesn’t have any trans staff members but it will be filled with cis staff who know how to SAY the right things about trans people. That is woke inclusion in a nutshell… an appropriate receptacle.
Now that it’s OK to assault Black conservatives for being ” white supremacists’ I can only imagine it will shortly be OK for total strangers to punch me again, too.
Just remember that most of the ‘Queer Theory’ world is for the abolishment of all age of consent laws.
“Queer Theory” is the moral diarrhea of totalitarianism.
Parents who are shocked that the Socialist State is now controlling their children (via manufactured transgenderism) weren’t paying attention when that very State explicitly explained all along that removing control of children from parents to the State was a primary goal. The Socialist State politicians, professors, media, etc. never hid their plan to create an indoctrinated Red Guard generation who obeyed the State and not their own parents. Transgender is the weapon to achieve this aim. How can anyone be shocked at a plan that has been so public for so long?
Now that it’s happened, perhaps these shocked parents should take a deep look at their personal culpability by examining their own beliefs, statements and positions (or lack of them) over the past decade to see the direct causality of their go-along-to-get-along acquiescence , social status-aggrandizing via virtue signalling, mob pile-on silencing and denouncing of all warnings about this truth as conspiracy theories, arrogantly dehumanizing all opponents of this reality as “racists” and “phobes” and “deplorables”, and smugly showing off on Facebook their Oprah/The View-curated acceptable new progressive-bourgeoisie views that downplayed and normalized Socialist State transformation weapons such as DiAngelo-Kendies and Trans Trendies.
If you wore the “Pussyhat” or related leftist conformity totems , perhaps you should have delved deeper into exactly what such symbols actually represent: a 21st century “revolutionary” Bonnet Rouge that signals your public loyalty to barefaced Totalitarianism.
Now the Socialist State’s got your kids and you’re sobbing and wailing. But where were you for the last 20 years as this incrementally but openly transpired with your own culpable consent or deliberate avoidance greasing its wheels? Why are you crying over a situation that you helped create? It’s too late for tears.
It’s refreshing to read an article like this; thank you. My 14 year old daughter just started grade 9 at a newly-opened arts integrated high school. In a class of 30 students, there are 5 transgender boys plus a number of other gay, lesbian and bisexual students, totalling a good third of the class. One already-lesbian student changed her name and began to identify as a boy within the first 10 days of the school year. These scenarios scream ROGD plus all kinds of ‘still exploring who they are” – but no way will any staff challenge the affirmation-only narrative. Add to that, the administration wants to meet the needs of the ‘gender-fluid’ students when deciding who should use which washrooms and change rooms. It’s all a bit much for a 14 year old who just wants to dig into subjects beyond gender identity.
Homeschool
What do you do if/when your child’s school, doctors, the courts, decide that your refusal to “affirm” your child’s “trans” identity is child abuse, and remove your parental rights? This has happened to families in Canada, Australia, California, Washington….So, how do you protect your family?
Give more context lol
The author is this (and her other) articles is very brave; and I applaud her honesty and sincerity.
Three comments as an old homosexual who fought against “Trans: The Political Mechanism” when it started in the ’90s (and lost the fight):
1) You don’t need to research or consult anyone. You are a parent. Anything you say to your offspring is all the expertise required for your OWN CHILD. Anyone saying otherwise is trying to get money from you or power over you.
2) When I was young (centuries ago) two phenomena occurred causally: a) there was no internet and b) there was no “trans”. Trans as it is known today started when the internet started and did not exist before.
Before the internet and modern “trans”, there were Transvestites of two types: i) homosexual males who failed as men so adopted a mask/persona of “woman-ness” to compensate; and ii) fetish heterosexual/bisexual men who eroticized dressing as women and who today are called Pigs in Wigs. As well, there were Transsexuals (0.1% of humans) a very rare condition related to hermaphrodites and intersexed humans. The first type was a lifestyle/psychological choice while the second was a medical/psychiatric condition. Current “trans” has morphed the two genuine human types into one manufactured and politicized anti-human shmorgensen.
Trans as a society-wide manufactured and politicized entity did not exist before the late 90s because the internet and social media did not exist . Manipulative political groups weaponized for their own ends the 50 years of public goodwill built up by gays and lesbians by utilizing social media to manufacture a false “safe” virtual avenue for your kid’s rebellion. Not scary real world rebellion places like heroin shooting galleries or SM sex clubs or radical leftist cell meetings. But a nice safe. pink, rainbow, unicorn, green haired, middle class, acceptable to liberal parents who were so open minded their brains fell out form of rebellion was brought into their children’s suburban bedrooms on the kid’s smart phones/laptops (and into the K-12 system) where children were indoctrinated to demand their parents’ bow down to the child’s newly instilled “rebellion” or else be publicly branded as “racists”, phobians, Trumps, smellys, boo-boo on fee-fees, child-killers, etc.
Since trans was not a problem before social media because social media created trans, the solution is simple: Cut the cord: no smartphones, no internet, no social media and your child would never have known what “trans” was. Trans is coming from OUTSIDE your child — not from INSIDE! And this imposition is not benign! It is a highly calculated targeted political action.
3) If your kid is old enough to demand to be “trans”, they are old enough to hear some hard facts of real “trans” life. Ask your kid:
Do you want to join a group that shrieks slogans like Die Cis Scum at anyone who questions them? Do you want to be part of a violent cult that dehumanizes any opposition as “TERFs” and screams Kill TERFs Dead! Do you want “trans” role models like “Zoey Tur” a linebacker man in a dress who when challenged on a public talk show barked to another panelist, “You cut that out or you’re going home in an ambulance.” Then threatened to “curb stomp” the panelist who opposed Tur’s trans lies.
Does your child want to join a “community” that is so ruthlessly violent and viciously vindictive that their own mother has to use a fake name for fear of violence, attacks and personal ruin by “trans” for speaking her mother’s truth? (In my own country, the govt is trying to pass a law that would make this online comment by me a “transphobian” criminal offense punishable by prison.)
Is THIS the “community” your child wants to join?
This is all the information any parent needs to deal with their kid’s brainwashing into the political online cult called “trans”.
“hermaphrodites and intersexed humans. ”
There is no such thing as a hermaphrodite. This is supposed to be a creature that has *both* male and female sexual reproductive systems and in theory can “impregnate” themself. It is impossible which is why the concept of a “hermaphrodite” is a myth and a legend.
“Intersex” is also wrong. There is NO “third” or additional sex. Just two: Male (small mobile gamete) and Female (large immobile gamete).
Those offensively termed as “intersex” have a Congenital Chromosomal medical condition of the sexual reproductive system – Better or more respectfully known as CCSD or DSD. (Difference in sex development).
Every single person (less than 0.3% of the population, not the incorrect 1.7%) is still *either* Male OR Female. This is due to the DSD they have being *sex specific*.
There are very few Congenital Chromosomal medical disorders – most that occur, will result in the foetus dying. But there is another one – that of Downs Syndrome. No one would use THAT medical condition to prop up some ideology that posited that there is a *different type* of human.
Lets not pretend that CCSD/DSD is a “third” or “additional” sex. They are not.
DSDs have absolutely NOTHING to do with “trans” ideology which is ableist, sexist, homophobic, and disrespectful of religious thought whilst demanding everyone else follow their mantras.
The ideology seeks to control freedom of thought and speech. It seeks to lock people into every smaller, rigid stereotypes with needless, harmful surgeries and drugs.
Its utterly authoritarian and needs to be stopped. No child (no one before age 25) should be “affirmed” as “trans”. No drugs, no surgeries. None.
Anyone after age 25 needs to understand that it is a choice. The other choice is to learn to live with ones biological sex. What one wears, is interested in, does is irrelevant. Ones sexed body doesn’t changed sex.
It is a cruel, cruel lie to everyone whether “trans” identifying or not, to impressionable children, to confused teens, to society to say that humans can change sex in any meaningful way.
Those who “live” as trans are just performing as a stereotype of the opposite sex. That is it.
You’re absolutely right! There is no “three genders” but instead an entire spectrum! Not even a spectrum, just an infinite amount!
not only is half of your comment outright wrong. you think i chose to be trans. i didnt. infact. i struggled to be normal and ignore being trans. listen to real data. please.
Keep going King/Queen/Slay! Choose whatever fits <3! Trans pride, my dear! Don't ignore yourself, fight the haters, prove everyone wrong, be louder than the bigots, drink water, love yourself, eat something, take meds if you have any, keep going, all that good stuff. You are quite loved!
Trans existed before the internet. Unless of course, the internet existed before 200-300 BCE, which according to my information, is not true. Galli priests wore feminine clothing, referred to themselves as females, and often castrated themselves. This was in Ancient Greece, Phrygia, and the Roman Republic and Empire. Plus, one of the earliest recorded transgender people in America was Thomas(ine) Hall, a seventeenth century colonial servant. The most complete account of the time came from the life of the Chevalier d’Éon (1728–1810), a French diplomat. Again, before the internet.
I agree, but I would go further. Chemically and surgically mutilating anyone with a mental disorder like gender dysphoria is unethical to the point of evil. If someone thinks he’s Napoleon, we don’t give him a 19th century French general’s uniform and troops to command and persecute anyone who refuses to address him as Mon Empereur. We attempt to reconcile him to reality, treat him with medication and/or therapy if we fail, and lock him up if he is a danger to himself or others. I fail to see the distinction if he thinks he’s a woman (or she thinks she’s a man).
There are differences.
1. We don’t have the technology to turn a person into Napoleon in a way that would help with their historic conqueror dysphoria, but we do have the technology to transition a person in a way that would alleviate their gender dysphoria.
2. Giving a person troops to command is more dangerous to other people around them than allowing that person to change their gender.
It’s interesting how you consider giving access to surgical and chemical treatment to an adult who wants those to be evil, but are totally OK with locking that person up if they are so miserable without said treatment that they are willing to physically hurt themselves.
We do NOT have any “technology” to change sex.
Anyone who has surgery does not have properly functioning opposite sex genitalia. They have a lifetime ahead of them of pain, discomfort and considerable damage to their body.
The drugs they are on will cause cognitive impairment, osteopenia leading to osteoporosis which is a nasty condition where spontaneous fractures of bones occur and do not heal properly due to the lack of calcium in the body and the *body’s now inability* to use exogenous calcium. Physical and mental disability are likely.
There is NO reason for any properly functioning, healthy body part to be removed for a mere “idea” in that patient’s head that they are *not* that person.
What is next? Person A is convinced their entire HEAD is not theirs and wants it replaced with a correct one? Would you then advocate for that surgery?
Bravo!
They didn’t say we had the technology to change sex and get into the genetics. They said we have the technology to make a person feel better and more confident in the body they have.
“…we do have the technology to transition a person…”
Yes. And that “technology” has a name:
AMPUTATION!
Identarian Warlord Regimes throughout history (including the current WEF Totalitaria) have always used this “technology” on captured male thralls. Cutting off these men’s genitals didn’t just create Eunachs. Penis and testicle amputation freed these new “members of the Chopped community” to “live as their true selves” (mutilated and humiliated castrato-slaves of the regime). Praise inclusivity! Praise diversity! Can you feel the love? I’ll bet they felt it.
Write the following two truths on the blackboard 100 times:
1) “Indulging delusions and enabling dementia makes mentally ill people WORSE!”
2) “Trans is a manufactured political LIE!”
ps this “technology” is also used on females to AMPUTATE their breasts. Woke schools should be forced to celebrate Feb 5th, Saint Agatha’s Day, to honour the female whose extermination involved having her breasts AMPUTATED. Her executioners were just being Inclusive and Diverse by creating the world’s first trans”man”. Another glorious moment in trans history.
“Give them the opportunity to let their brain mature naturally.”
Wise words. Not hate speech.
“Altering the body by hormones or surgery is *permanent*. Use that wisdom, use that perspective, and give your kid the things they truly need: time, meaningful experiences, better friends who appreciate them for who they actually are, and lots and lots of love.”
What an orgy of malpractice it is, that these Professionals (and their MSM pals) get to push such weakly-tested, poorly-understood hormonal etc. practices upon *minors*, based on so-very-dubious theories of “gender”.
If you’re going to give your kids “lots and lots of love”, it’ll be all-but useless, unless you package with it guidance/ perspective.
If you really want your kids to have a clue, and not be putty in the hands of power-drunk Elites, you’d best tip them off, to just how untested so much Conventional Wisdom is, and just how mistrusted so many of its purveyors have become.