Social Justice Usage
Source: “Lithosexual,” LGBTA Wiki.
Lithosexual (also called akoisexual) is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum. Someone who is lithosexual may experience sexual attraction but does not want it reciprocated. The lithosexual person may be uncomfortable at the thought of someone being sexually attracted to them, or they may lose their sexual feelings if they learn it’s reciprocated. As such, lithosexuals do not feel compelled to seek out a sexual relationship. Like with any sexual orientation, lithosexuals can have any romantic orientation.
New Discourses Commentary
Lithsexuality (or, “lithosexuality,” or “akoisexuality”) is, under the broad umbrella of queer Theory, a sexual orientation (sexuality) that feels sexual attraction only to others who do not reciprocate it. This categorizes lithsexuality broadly within asexuality, as functionally it tends to result in not being interested in having sexual relationships, which one would assume require mutual sexual interest and affirmative consent (given the Theory of Critical Social Justice and the disposition of its adherents—see also, rape). A lithsexual person might feel attraction to other people, but that sexual attraction would vanish—usually due to somehow feeling uncomfortable with it—if it were known that the attraction is mutual. Under normal circumstances, one might be forgiven for believing that this is either a form of sexual social anxiety or something to do with an attachment disorder, but within Theory, it is an identity category because that is useful for identity politics and making quirky young people feel special and unique whereas mental illness is not.
As with many, if not most, of the ideas that emerge in the (youth-oriented) activism broadly comprehensible under queer Theory, lithsexuality is not particularly difficult to understand as a concept (though it is, perhaps, as a phenomenon that people would consider more stable and meaningful than a presentation of social anxiety in some people). What is less immediately clear is why such a concept needs to exist in the first place, and why it is considered a sexual orientation, or sexuality, instead of a personality quirk or symptom of underlying (probably mild) mental illness. That follows because of queer Theory’s relentless interest in cataloging every possible non-normative sex, gender, sexual, or even romantic identity (see also, romantic orientation, and here, lithromantic) as a means of trying to destabilize descriptively normal orientations like heterosexuality (see also, heteronormativity, and also, disrupt, dismantle, deconstruct, subvert, and aufheben). The underlying belief seems to be that if we see just how varied the taxonomical universe of sexual orientations (etc.) really is, we’ll disrupt both heteronormativity and the binary contained in “heterosexual or homosexual.” These objectives are consistent with the core project of queer Theory, which is to disrupt the normal and the normative.
Related Terms
Affirmative consent; Asexuality; Aufheben; Binary; Critical; Deconstruction; Dismantle; Disrupt; Gender; Heteronormativity; Identity; Identity politics; Lithromantic; Mental health; Normal; Normativity; Rape; Romantic orientation; Queer Theory; Sex; Sexuality; Social Justice; Subversion; Theory
Revision date: 3/31/21
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“Under normal circumstances, one might be forgiven for believing that this is either a form of sexual social anxiety or something to do with an attachment disorder, but within Theory, it is an identity category because that is useful for identity politics and making quirky young people feel special and unique whereas mental illness is not.
“The underlying belief seems to be that if we see just how varied the taxonomical universe of sexual orientations (etc.) really is, we’ll disrupt both heteronormativity and the binary contained in “heterosexual or homosexual.” These objectives are consistent with the core project of queer Theory, which is to disrupt the normal and the normative.”
From reading these quotes, even though I disagree understand this concept as some social anxiety, I understand more of where queer theory and identity politics are coming from and why some advocate for it, and I think the way you worded this was fairly clear. I am an advocate of disrupting the normal and the normative, I feel some ways in which people inspired by queer theory and identity politics go about pushing these ideologies harm aspects of the normal and normative that are comparatively more healthy for community. For example, I’ve seen that having many different sexual identities stimulates people further into “us” vs. “them” mindsets, which hinders feelings of connection within the LGBT+ community.
Thanks for writing this article
So they are looking to legitimize rape and pedophilia as sexual orientations and identities ? Am I getting this right. They same group that came up with the #metoo movement.
We are screwing up our children royally. I just read an article yesterday it popped up when I went to google some business address and phone#. It was about how this young lady endured so much unwanted touch from men. She felt programed to just go along for fear of worse retribution if she refused. However in every instance she had consented at first naively but then became a dominatrix, a sex worker and told her self and everyone around her she was enpowered. No acknowledgement that she was creating neuro pathways in her brain to break the bonding that women physiologically do when participating in a sexual act. I heard if you do it enough you’ll find you can’t any more. That you’ll break the very thing that promotes stable loving relationships. The story of her first encounter she admits the hormone surge at the time and the crush on the older brother, but completely ignores the feelings of the boy who rightfully so thought she was his girlfriend as she and he were kissing and hanging out for some time in his room over the summer I believe. Friends since elementry school now about 14 they were testing I remeber this phase of life. The older brother and his 2 friends inviter her into the bathroom with them. He mouths the words no and pleads with his eyes not to do it, but she goes anyway. She did mention she loved him and they didn’t hang out any more after that. Ya think? Narcissism is what I’ve heard many say about this generation and the uprising we are seeing. She never really brings up the teachings of her parents only that her mother would have never allowed him in her room but his mother was not as vigilant. All I could think is you need therapy but I am genuinely fearful of the therapy being offered if this is what is coming out of University. The feminists did a number on this poor girl. I hope she hasn’t done too much damage and finds a guy who can love her to a better place. However at 30 something she seems to be advocating for a touchless society and that’s not huaman.